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| Does anyone have experience with sleep problems in toddlers? My daughter is 19 months and does not sleep through the night. She sleeps with my husband and I at night (we can start her off in her own bed, but she'll end up in ours), and will either sleep in her own toddler bed (she was crawling out of her crib), or in our bed for naps. She was sleeping through the night from about 4 months to 10 months, and then suddenly she started waking up once or twice a night. When she started waking up, partly to comfort her, and partly to selfishly get some sleep, I'd give her a bottle to sooth her back to sleep quickly. Now, however, she gotten into the habit of waking up in the middle of the night to have a bottle, at least once a night, sometimes twice. She also will not fall alseep for naps or at night unless I'm holding her, or laying beside her. As a baby, I loved to hold her while she fell asleep, but I didn't think about the routine I was creating. Now that she's a little older, sometimes she'll fall asleep in my arms, but most of the time now she says, "night, night", which means she wants to go lay in bed. But she'll only stay there if I'm next to her so she can play with my hair. I've tried sneaking out just before she totally falls alseep (when she's really drowsy), but it never works. Her eyes fly wide open, she sits up and starts crying. I don't believe in the crying it out method. My husband and I would like to try to start getting her in her own bed at night fairly soon, but with all these other sleep issues, I don't even know where to begin! Help!!! |
| Posted by SienasMommy on 12/04/2007 01:33 PM
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First, thanks for your encouragement about my situation with our son's ear/respiratory issues...it's nice to know there's some empathy out there!
Second, I am wondering, with your daughter being as old as she is, would she "cry it out" for long if you tried that? She's learned self-soothing, right? My guess is that it would hurt you and your husband far deeper than your daughter at this point in time...and that it would be a really hard few days and nights..but, would she benefit more from the self-reliance and from sleeping in her own bed (which seems like what you guys really want for her).
Of course, it's your decision and you know her the best. Just remember that she's at the age of creating habits...she can change them (with consistent help from you!) just as quickly. Lastly, did anything happen in her world and yours to upset or distrupt the flow of living around the age that this started? It could range from mere developmental issues (dreaming, feedings, social growth) to environmental changes (mom starting new job, new house, different family schedule, etc.) It may be that she's looking for extra security and is finding it unfortunately when she needs to be sleeping. God's blessings on you and I hope you and your husband find what will work for you and your child! |
| posted by Kelly on 12/04/2007 04:06 PM
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Thanks for your ideas and support! You're right, it probably would upset my husband and I more than our daughter if we let her cry it out. I don't necessarily agree with the method, but even if I chose to try it, the problem is that she's not in a crib anymore. We moved her to a toddler bed because she was climbing out of the crib. So, there is really nothing keeping her in her bed, and she can open the doors, so she'd just walk right out into the living room. She's done it plenty of times before when she's woken up. Her first year was very difficult because my husband was battling cancer (he's doing very well now...cancer free!!). He was diagnosed when she was 2 weeks old. So, the poor child was run all over the place, from this grandma, to that grandma, while I was with my husband during his surgeries and chemo. So, it's very likely that some of her security issues stem from that. During the day (when she's awake) she's very indepenent, it's just when she's ready for bed, she suddenly turns into a major mama's girl! I just read that getting her a "lovey" may help, since right now, I'm her lovey! I think I may try that and see if she can get some comfort from that.
Thanks for your thoughts! |
| posted by SienasMommy on 12/04/2007 11:19 PM
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| My daughter just turned one, and wasn't sleeping through the nite till she hit 11 months, but that was with lots of help and guidence from a book. Lord know's i've tried many many books, but it just didn't fit our child. Sleep easy solutions has different methods for different issues for children up to 5 years. It's all purple with a cute sleeping baby on the front. It's helped up at night and for naps. I recomeend it as much a s I can, and like I stated earlier, I've tried/read a lot of baby books. I feel like I could almost write my own. lol. |
| posted by Cara on 12/05/2007 09:26 AM
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| Thanks Cara...I'm going to look for it!! I'll try anything at this point! |
| posted by SienasMommy on 12/05/2007 11:51 AM
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