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| Hello ladies! My daughter has just recently started to hit herself in the head and bang her head off of random hard objects. She also hits me too. She seems to do it when she's angry or upset. I can be stern with her and tell her to stop over and over but she never listens to me with anything, including this. However she will listen to my husband if he corrects her. This drives me nuts!!! I wanted to know if anyone has expierenced anything similar to this with their toddler. I just want to correct the behavior before it becomes a real problem and she is hitting others. I'm also concerned for her safety also. Sometimes she hits her head so hard off of her crib I'm running in there to make sure she's ok. Is this nomarl for toddlers of her age(20 months)? Any thoughts or ideas are welcomed! Thanks so much! |
| Posted by Heather on 11/07/2007 09:57 AM
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| I'm going through the same thing with my daughter. It started a couple of months ago. I tell her "No." very sternly while looking into her eyes. She is still doing it occassionly, but it is happening less and less. Now she hits her hands together when she's frustrated. My other mom friends say it is a common stage that their kids went through as well. I think they just need to learn how to express their frustration. Good luck, I think it is a stage that will hopefully pass soon! :) |
| posted by Lisa on 11/07/2007 01:31 PM
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| my son did the same thing for a while, it was just a stage lasted a couple of months, he actually chip one of my teeth from head butting me. Good Luck. |
| posted by Michele on 11/07/2007 03:35 PM
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| with our son it worked well to give him words for his feelings and a replacement behavior. so, if he hit himself i would say "honey, no hit. i know you're frustrated/angry/unhappy. use your words. say 'MAD'" and i'd hold his hands firmly and look him in the eye while saying it. then, when he's NOT mad i'd say "when you're mad you can clap your hands/hit elmo (pick one safe toy)" or whatever behavior i wanted him to have. we'd practice. then, if he used his words or the replacement behavior i'd praise him "oh you're mad and you TOLD MOMMY! you used your words!" "look, i'm proud of you! you're frustrated so you hit elmo!" it worked for biting, too. |
| posted by Christina on 11/07/2007 08:32 PM
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| From what I have seen it is a common issue but Christina has an excellent post on how to correct it. My son is hitting too, I tell him NO firmly and look right at him and he laughs. I have to put him down after saying "NO" firmly again so he knows I'm serious, then I get him to focus on somting else, usually followed by more scraming. All he does now all day long is scream and cry. |
| posted by Melinda on 11/13/2007 08:24 AM
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