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| I have a 20 month old son who is EXTREMELY active. He is a good boy, sweet and nice. He is just very curious and very energetic. Is anyone else in this situation........you are made to feel badly, by other moms, because your child is so much more active than "the norm"? I cannot count the number of times I have had hurt feelings and I am afraid it will continue forever. |
| Posted by Colleen on 01/07/2007 10:32 PM
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I had two very active boys. The library actually suggested my younger son was not ready to attend the 2 year old story time! I felt judged a lot by other people, too, but kept reminding myself that they don't know the situation very well. I couldn't take him into *Big Church* until he was eight or nine because he was so loud and active. When he was three (just barely) I took him to the Tulsa Zoo. The whole time he ran circles around me (literally) while I lookd at the animals. The only time he slowed down was when we came across a part of the zoo that they were redoing. He watched the construction trucks for about 10 minutes. Then we were off again. I'm not sure that he ever saw an animal on that trip!
Think of the positives of all that energy: sports, park ranger, comedian, fireman, policeman, and any other active job.
My son is now 15 and doesn't run around like a maniac anymore. His mouth runs 24/7, but he's finally learned appropriate behavior in different settings.
I homeschool him, and his activity level is one of the reasons. He was exhausted every day from trying to sit still in school like the teachers wanted. At home he can do his work laying down, standing up, sitting on the couch, or sitting at the table. He can get up and stretch and move as he needs without getting in trouble. He can bounce his legs, tap his pencil, and talk out loud about his work; those things that were discouraged at school actually help him to stay focused on his work at home!
He's been blessed with a lot of energy and as he grows you will find ways to help him channel it for good. In fact, when Daniel was in elementary school and really antsy I'd tell him to go run up and down the sidewalk in front of our house - and he happily would - just run and laugh and run some more.
Don't let the ones who don't understand get you down. Forgive them because they just don't have all the information. You can respond with a gracious, "Thank you for your concern, but I've already tried that method." or "Well, I haven't tried that before. I might just do that." (You don't have to because you said *might*) If you gets *looks* from people, smile back and say something like, "With all that enrgy he's going to be a great basketball player some day." And show your pride in your boy's uniqueness.
I bet you are doing a great job with him. Just the fact that you are seeking help from others shows how much you care and that you want the best for him. Keep up the good work! |
| posted by Kelly on 01/16/2007 11:04 PM
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| Thank you so much. It is so great and so refreshing to hear that someone else has been in my shoes. I would not trade my son for the world. I agree with you that a lot of good will come out of his activity level. It is a daily challenge, but we are getting through it. I would rather have him this way than a "couch potato". Thanks again for your input and your kind words. It sounds like your son is doing great! |
| posted by Colleen on 01/19/2007 08:27 PM
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