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| Raising Kids in Difficult Relationships |
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I'm having a very difficult time right now with my significant other. As it seems, I am the only one who is in a relationship that is not fulfilling, or at least the only one who wants to talk about it here. Are there not anyone out there to share my woes with? To top it off, nobody wants to join my group; kinda feels like rejection of my female peers. All by myself, don't want to be, all by myself anymore.... LOL It is after all a vent group for all that are in a difficult relationship of any sort.
Recently I started working after being home with our new baby for a whole year. My first day of work was his first birthday. I know, sad right? But it was ok, cause we didn't celebrate it untill that Saturday. I have only recieved one paycheck so far and he is fussing about how he has to carry the whole finacial load. Right now I only make wage an hour and have used my money to buy diapers, wipes, gas, food for the baby and us, toilet paper, laudry soap, dish soap..... Yeah, you get the picture. I'm spending the money on us, which he claims that I do nothing at all to support our family. I go to work and to the babysitters and home and he claims that I'm just out burning out gas riding up and down the roads. He fusses about everything, even when I want to go see my mom or sister. I feel stuck and want out. I really need support and a friend................................................................................... |
| Posted by busygirl0219 on 11/04/2007 01:30 AM
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Hi There. Hang in there. Men have a terrible terrible habit of taking things out on us and blaming us when they are stressed and scared. Instead of being men and just admitting to what they are feeling they try and achieve the task of making it seem like its our fault. I'm sure that you staying home for a year was planned, it had to be if he was the only income. How can you be burning gas when you are the one putting the gas in the car? Listen, you just keep doing what your doing for you and your baby and keep those intentions in mind when he acts a damn fool! Things get better!!! Feel free to contact me if you need to talk!
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| posted by Eva on 11/08/2007 01:19 PM
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| Maybe try a little reverse pshycology. When he starts going off about this petty stuff, try asking him if he's ok. "Did you have a rough day honey?" "You seem a little on edge, do you wanna talk about it?" "We're both stressed honey, why don't we try not to take it out on each other." Also, when is the last time you guys had some alone time? Having a new baby is rough sometimes and can put a strain on a relationship, try planning a date night with each other even if it means you get a family member to keep the baby for a few hours and you guys cook dinner together (or go our if the budget allows). Sometimes re-igniting the fire can make a huge difference in the way you treat each other. |
| posted by Pamela on 11/08/2007 04:27 PM
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| Thank you so much for replying to my post and joining the group. Thank you for lending your time and "getting what my frustrations are". I do need a friend and your support, even if it's through correspondance. Thank you. :) |
| posted by busygirl0219 on 11/13/2007 12:52 AM
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| i know how u feel.i am in the same relationship almost.mine is he works and i dont.so he complains about not haveing money but he told me i dont have to work so i dont know why hes complaing.i had a job but we moved to missouri.and now just recently i found out hes been cheating on me evrytime i leave to go visit my family out of state.i feel like i dont do enogh for him.but i do.well id lie to talk more o ya so go ahead and add me as a friend and we can chat more. |
| posted by angie on 10/16/2008 05:45 PM
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HI LADIES BUSYGIRL HANG INTHERE WERE ALL LIKE THAT IN SOMEWAY MY HUSBAND IS THE SAME WAY BUT HE IS DOWN RIGHT MISERABLE ALL THE TIME! FOR ME I AVOID HIM AND KEEP BUSY W/ THE KIDS AS FAR AS U WORKING AND GETTING WHAT YOU NEED W/"UR" MONEY TELL HIM AND ALSO TELL HIM " IF YOU THINK I AM DOING ALL THAT YOU SAY YOU MUST HAVE TO MUCH TIME ON UR HANDS" EVERY HUSBAND OR SIGNIFICANT OTHER TRYS IT IF THERE FEELING DOUBTFUL OR INSECURE!
GOOD LUCK HERE FOR GIRL YOU NEED TO CHAT JUST YELL
HAPPY HOLIDAYS
GERRI |
| posted by gerri on 12/22/2008 01:10 PM
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Hello All! I'm back! I've been away because we moved and just got the internet hooked back up. I didn't forget you. Thanks to all that gave me advice on my last inqury. I see that the group has grown since i was last on. Thanks to all that have joined and those that have stayed. Hope to be on more and throw out some new topics for discussion. Please anyone feel free to start a topic. Remember no topic off limits, cause I know we all have an opinion. Hope to hear from you all soon. |
| posted by busygirl0219 on 04/03/2009 03:45 AM
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