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| As usual, I am TRYING to compromise between what my kids want and what I know is best. My 14 year old was invited to a party tonight and I won't be letting her go. The girl hosting the party claims to be bi-sexual, and I have viewed pictures of her mother (posted by the mother) that I think are very innappropriate, on MySpace. I KNOW that this is not a place that I want my daughter to be. I also KNOW that I will be hearing ALL NIGHT about how unfair I am and how EVERYONE else is going. Along with, how JUDGEMENTAL I am. What do you think??? |
| Posted by tamara on 11/03/2007 08:45 PM
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i'm split, honestly. are you afraid of what will happen at the party (drugs, sex, drinking, etc) or are you afraid that your daughter will identify with the lifestyle? is your daughter strong enough to remain who SHE is around those influences? why does she want to go?
i don't think you're being unfair, but i DO think these are great opportunities to open dialogue about what you believe and why. now, your daughter needs more creativity in her arguing -- you're a mom, of COURSE everyone else is going, and you're unfair and blah blah blah. |
| posted by Christina on 11/04/2007 02:20 PM
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| if i was in your situation,i would do the same,i wouldn't let her go.because"bad company ruins good morals".unless someone is strong enough to keep their good morals being around bad company but i haven't seen much success stories about that.you usually hang around people you have in common with and it's hard to be around someone you can't get along with or have different views than yours.so, no you're not being judgemental.you're just being a parent that tries her best to do what's good for her children. |
| posted by Maila on 11/04/2007 03:40 PM
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| Thank you for your support. To explain, let me say that I do not always trust my daughter's judgement. I have done all that I can to instill morals in her. Sometimes she makes wise decisions, but sometimes she doesn't. And at this age, I worry so much about what a bad choice can do to her reputation and self-respect, and, in turn, to who she is. |
| posted by tamara on 11/04/2007 04:49 PM
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| if you worry about your daughter's choices, i think it's PERFECTLY appropriate to say NO WAY and it's because i don't trust you to make wise decisions in these sort of circumstances. break out scripture, talk about what a woman should be in the Lord. 14 is YOUNG and most 14 year olds are not ready to make all decisions. |
| posted by Christina on 11/04/2007 07:32 PM
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