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Well, ladies, I talked to him last night. Actually what I did was write down what I was feeling, that way I wouldn't forget anything. He said that it would be a great idea to have a budget, and for me to help him with the bills. He is also going to check into getting my name on his checks. So the money discussion went rather well, which suprised me! I kept thinking, why didn't I do this sooner?!
There were other things that I wrote down: like why did I have to ask him to do anything? why do I have to ask permission? save reciepts? He had no answer for me, except for "that way you don't go somewhere and spend too much money." I told him that I've been feeling like I had no importance and that I FELT like he didn't appreciate me. He told me I was being rediculous. Then he opened his magazine and that was the end of our discussion.
Thanks, AGAIN, for ALL the advice. I really appreciate it!
Angela |
| Posted by Angela on 11/02/2007 10:44 AM
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| i'm glad to hear the buget talk went well,,, thro it sounds like you'll have more talks very soon about the other,,,, i'm happy you atleast got that far! i'm sure if you keep up with the talks you'll both feel better about everything. glad we could all be of help to you! |
| posted by lea on 11/02/2007 06:20 PM
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does it feel like a weight has been lifted? Im sure it does. Sorry if i came off harsh in my last reply, i didnt mean too. I guess this topic makes me so fustrated since I was once in a controlling realationship where i had to report EVERYTHING. So now that i married a man that is the completly different i feel like more of a "couple". So i guess what im saying is I hope you feel like more of a "couple" and a "team" too. The more discussing you do the better you will feel..that is if you both talk about it..not you talking and him ingnoring..
Sorry, for the novel... |
| posted by Ashlee on 11/02/2007 07:58 PM
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Ashlee,
I didn't think you sounded harsh. You were just stating how you felt :) |
| posted by Angela on 11/03/2007 11:08 AM
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while you guys do a budget here's something that helped me with the same issue. i told my dh "honey, if i have some money of my own to do what i like with i can SURPRISE YOU!" i can't buy gifts for you if you know where ever dime went.
now i get a "weekly paycheck" that he doesn't scrutinize. it's within our means and it's mine to spend as i wish, so long as i pay for food, clothing and basic household things out of it. |
| posted by Christina on 11/03/2007 08:56 PM
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