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I have a one year old daughter and her father and i arent together and we dont see or speak to each other. Well i have known my boyfreind for almost 3 years and we have been dating for over a year well he doesnt have any ties to my daughter other than the fact that he has been around since she was born. But he dosnt understand wat it is like to have a baby go to school and i would say work but i recently lost my job. he has no responciabalities he lives with his parents has an easy job a good car and decent grades he always gets mad when i stress he just doesnt understand what it is like to be responciable for another person. i try to tell him that it is hard but he will never understand the full extent. He has never had to change a diaper he has only fed her once or twice he loves her and he plays with her but thats only the easy stuff its nothing i would love to be able to just enjoy the good things and none of the bad( sickness, money, no free time, ect) i just wish that he knew what i was going through. I know that there is no real question but i needed to vent and if you have a suggestion i.d be open to hear it. i know that i cannot spell or type worth a crap
Posted by shanelle on 11/01/2007 12:26 AM

Hi Shanelle. I'm sorry your going through such a hard time. Its a shame that men don't have the capability of understanding what us women go through. There was a time when I felt that my husband didn't TRULY understand what I was going through. My baby is 3 months. I went through the whole post partum depression and to help with that I went back to work early. So I'm a full time mom and a full time wife and full time worker. He took of this week and he is with the baby alone. Now that he is there first hand and I am at work you can see and hear the stress in his voice and he's now saying the same things I used to say, like "at least your able to talk to people. I'm home with the baby all day". Mind you I was home for 2 months with the baby and this is his first week doing it solo until I get home. I say this to say that men don't know until they go through it. Maybe you should take a few hours to yourself to leave the house. Let your b/f babysit for a few hours (maybe 5). I'm sure he'll have a different perspective. Also tell him how you feel. Don't ever ever feel like you have to keep things to yourself because you don't. Your doing and handling so much that you DESERVE to vent and scream if need be and he should understand. Feel free to write me if you just need to talk! Take Care! Eva
posted by Eva on 11/01/2007 09:04 AM

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