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| I work a part-time job and freelance. That means while my hours are slightly irregular, I feel like I have plenty of time to be home with baby. In my pre-baby days, I filled up those hours with work-related preparation. The same amount of prep is demanded for my career, but it has obviously been scaled way back so I can be a mom. In any case, I still need to do some work at home, not to mention try to clean the house once in a while! My son is 11 months old, and seems to be so incredibly needy. I can't even do the dishes without him clinging to my knees. My mom says I spoil him, and I need to find a way to get him to play by himself at least some of the time. I have a play yard in our basement near the computer, etc., and think I need one near the kitchen where I can see him. But even with his toys all around him, gets cranky and will only play alone for like 15 minutes before crying. It is really driving me crazy! What do other moms do? |
| Posted by Jade on 10/26/2007 09:02 PM
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Probably 15 min. playing alone for a 11 months old is really not so bad. I would play with him 5 min. every 15 min. so he does not feel left out! When you do housework that does not require concentration talk to him or sing to him so that he feels he gets your attention.
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| posted by Vero on 10/27/2007 08:42 AM
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I think the play yard by the computer is great that way you can see what he is doing & still be able to talk to him. I agree take a break every so often & focus on just him. As for the kitchen I wouldn't get him a play yard for up there...how about putting him in high chair close to you so that you can talk to him & give him your attention while you are doing dishes. Or you can get an exersaucer. You can also give him pots & pans & soft utensils to play with that way he can make music.
Also, sometimes it is ok to let them cry for a few minutes. Especially when you know that he doesn't need anything & nothing is wrong. If he is some where safe & he is just crying because he knows he will get your attention. Let him cry for a minute or 2 & then go & talk to him for minute. Let the time slowly expand to longer lengths & pretty soon he will be playing quietly by himself for 1/2 hour or longer. Just make sure YOU take a break at least every hour so that you can talk to him & play with him & make sure he is dry & not hungry etc...Good Luck & let us know it goes!! |
| posted by Heather on 11/24/2007 03:21 AM
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