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Let's all welcome Nina, Debbie, Overwhelmed, Caitlin to the group, they are our newest members.
WELCOME!!!!!
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| Posted by Nana on 10/24/2007 05:09 PM
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Thanks. I find it comforting that I am not the only one who needs to vent once in a while.
So, let me introduce myself. I am Caitlin, but I usually go by Caity. I am 24 years old and have a 5 month old daughter, Sadie. She is the llight iof my life and is probably the one thing in life that I am absolutely sure of. I moved to LA from Chicago 2 years ago and met the man of my dreams, Lenny. We have been together ever since and plan on getting married next year, maybe sooner. We have been great together, but these past few weeks I feel like I am losing my mind.
I am a stay at home mom. I love being home wit hthe baby, even though it is a job that you never get a break from. My boyfriend works freelance. So we have this agreement that when he is working I do all the house chores and all the baby stuff. When he is off (like he is now) he helps clean, cook, and baby duty. He has been on break for three weeks now, which has been nice, but I can't get him to do squat. I ask him to help with the baby so I can go fold laundry and he takes her, holds her, than puts her in her play pen. he will sit there while she cries and watch tv and hush her and make her activity center do things, but it is very clear SHE DOES WANT TO BE THERE. So I can'ttake the crying and have to stop what I am doing to go find out what it is she needs. Other times I will ask himif he can take her so I can take a nap and he will, but an hour later he will come in saying she is hungry (she's not on a bottle yet). I will take her and she will stop crying immediately, buyt won't feed. I feel like my boyfriend is a great father and supportive person, butthese past few weeks he is slacking.
It's especially hard now because my little girl won't sleep at night or take a decent nap during the day. She refuses a bottle, i started her on cereal and she loves it one day, the other not so much What am I to do? I get no sleep, feel like I am constantly cleaning and it is taking a toll on my sanity, my relationship, and my ability to be a good mom.
I just wish I could geta real break. Maybe an hour or two at the salon. Don't get me wrong, my boyfriend is a BIG help, but I don't know if I should say something to him or wait. I think he may be depressed because we are losing a ton of money right now. I am at a loss.
Well that felt tgood. Thanks for letting me vent. I can't talk to anyone else about this because my friends don't have kids and my mom would be calling me every 5 minutes to make sure I was alright.
Thanks aghain for the warm welcome,
Caity
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| posted by caitlin on 10/25/2007 12:07 PM
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| Caity, I am a part time SAHM with a son that is 20 months old and I have to tell you that what you are feeling right now is totally normal, My son had colic for the first 5 months of his life and my husband could not take it, I would ask him to give me a break and he would just let him cry and I would get so upset because biologically (especially if we are nursing as I was) our body is programmed to react to the babies cry. I would get so angry because I would be walking around leaking all the time and all I wanted my husband to do was to take the baby for a car ride so I could get something done or take a nap and my husband would always say that as a mother I naturally had more patience. As a man if they feel like they are not financially providing or providing less than what they think they are capable of they totally get depressed but as busy SAHM's all we see is them vegging out in front of a tv with a video game controller. Unfortunately the way men and women preceive things is always different. Anyway you may want to talk to your bf about it but make sure you are calm and considerate in your words and tone and then when he does get more work see if you can schedule an outing for yourself even just to go get your hair done. Do you have family or friends in the area that can take the baby at your home even for an hour or so. If this is not possible plan a few hours on the weekend (in advance) and tell your bf that you are off duty and take a long hot bath paint your nails or even buy a do it yourself kit and dye your hair a change of pace even for an hour can really help. I hope we hear more from you in the future, have a great weekend! |
| posted by Kyleen on 10/28/2007 09:05 PM
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