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| I'm a mother of a 4 month old daughter. How do you find time for intimacy with hubby when my daughter is always in bed with us? Any suggestions? |
| Posted by Christa on 10/21/2007 09:31 PM
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First, welcome to the group Christa.
You post a really great question because it is such a challenge to maitain and nurture our relationship with our husband when we have our little one all snuggled up with us. Logistically what was once a private adult space has become communal, so it would be great to hear from everyone about what has worked for them.
My husband and I wait until the kids have gone to bed, turn out the lights and throw a blanket down in the living room. It's not as comfy as the bed, but now that we're parents we've found we have to be more flexible. Priorities change, don't they, but with some creative effort it can work. |
| posted by gia on 10/21/2007 11:22 PM
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| We put our 9 month old to sleep in his crib so that we can have some time alone together and the baby isn't 'afraid' of his crib. When he wakes up around 1am I bring him into bed with me. |
| posted by Lauren on 10/22/2007 06:25 AM
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| I think the last response is good- about putting baby in the criib till he/she wakes up. Befroe I was ready to put our daughter in her crib in her room I would put her in the bassinet by our bed intil she woke up. My husband was always freaked out about being intimate when I was pregnate and too after she was born and in our room. After putting her in the bassinet for a few months I began to "whine" myself and I was okay with her sleeping in her room. |
| posted by Freedom on 11/01/2007 11:55 PM
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| Our couch has become the new bed. We put our baby to bed (in our bed) turn on the monitor and head for the living room. It works for us and has forced us to be creative. |
| posted by Malena on 01/15/2008 02:18 PM
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Hathor the Cowgoddess (Heather Cushman-Dowdee) has a great comic on this subject.
http://www.thecowgoddess.com/?m=20070701
I just love her.
Love,
Elena |
| posted by Elena on 01/15/2008 04:55 PM
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| like a few of you said, we usually end up either on the floor in our room, in the lving room or on the couch. It remindsus of when we were first married and would have sex or make out any and every where we could. I find this to be the most commonly asked question by my friends who are confused and opposed to our choice to co sleep. I remind many of them that you don't have to have a bed to have sex. Also, I inform them that I grew up in a famil of ten when all of us would cosleep at one time or another and somtimes even two children slept with our parents. But obviously if there ended up being 10 children my parents sex life never suffered and I don't ever remembering walking in on my parents ever nor have any of my siblngs,they must have figured it out somehow! |
| posted by maura on 02/01/2008 02:51 PM
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| i agree with a few of you. put the baby to bed in his or her crib then when he/she wakes up back to family bed |
| posted by Rebecca on 02/08/2008 09:56 AM
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