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| It totally is. My son doe steh same thing and when teh other chidl tries to get away when he is wrestling with them, he goes limp where teh other child can't get away. Boys are different species form girls, but they are a lot of fun. My son likes to head butt as well. |
| posted by rosie on 10/21/2007 04:19 PM
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| sorry for the mispellings I type bad. All you can do is hope the othe rparent understand that he's a boy by nature. |
| posted by rosie on 10/21/2007 04:21 PM
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Oh yeah, boy thing! My 3 yr old still does it but listens a little better. I've noticed two types of boys, boys that like to be rough and tough and well uh not so tough boys. :) Just be firm and he'll eventually know when its ok to be rough with other kids. Tell him so and so likes gentle touches. :)
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| posted by Christina on 10/21/2007 04:22 PM
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| thank you very much! I guess I should have told you that I am also due for my second child any time now...due date Oct 31 and Nov 7...I know I have two. And this one is a girl, so I have been quite nervous about my son's behavior. Not to mention that he loves the attention he gets from me right now, so his world is going to be upside down for a little while! |
| posted by kristen on 10/21/2007 08:31 PM
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| My boys are rough and tumble also but mostly with each other or with daddy. |
| posted by judi on 10/21/2007 09:47 PM
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| I have a boy and a girl and he loves to wrestle with his sister, also. She initiates it but he doesn't know his own stregnth and gets carried away (he's younger). Needless to say, she usually winds up getting hurt! I tell them to stop but they end up doing it again and again. They love each other and are very close friends but I feel like I am always saying "Keep your hands to yourself!"!! |
| posted by elaine on 10/22/2007 09:30 AM
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| I have a two year old boy and a 8 month girl, I am not sure if it is also because we have dogs who have snapped at him when he has gotten rough but he has been very gentle with his sister, it is almost like the big bother gene kicks right in now that she is starting to move and talk he is now the enforcer and trys to keep her out of trouble. he was 22 months when I had her, he sort of ingnored her for the first few months. and those terrible two's I'm just glad my daughter is easy and doesn't cry much. it gets better and they even get more independant quicker then w/o a sibling which is nice. |
| posted by Michele on 10/22/2007 03:37 PM
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Oh I am so glad my son isn't the only one who does this..LOL
My son will hug (tackle) as well and come out looking like a bully but I swear he is just very strong and doesn't realize his strength, He's been like this since day one when he tried to move his head up 5 hours after he was born (freaked the nurse out, which freaked me out)
I think boys will be boys and when he tries to actually hurt someone in an intentional way I will worry then. |
| posted by Renata on 10/22/2007 08:46 PM
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| My son is the same way. He has gotten better about when, where and who though.He'll be 6 next month. |
| posted by Melissa on 10/22/2007 10:40 PM
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| I have two boys ages 8 and 18 months old. My youngest Jacob will get down on the floor and take handfuls of his brothers hair, and pull Daniel down to the floor. We have to remind Daniel that he is bigger than Jacob, and he has to be careful with him. Yes it is defintly a boy thing. |
| posted by Donna on 10/23/2007 03:06 AM
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I think it is a boy thing too. My son will try to play rough and tough with almost everyone. All though he does not try to play like that with little girls.......thank god for that.
We signed him up for Gymnastics once a week, and that has been a big help. All though he still loves to play rough and wrestle with daddy and my father-in-law......but not as much.
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| posted by Trish on 10/23/2007 12:56 PM
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| Well, my son is only 15 weeks old so I can't really say, but I do know that his auto-kick response is hyper-sensitive and verging on the strength of a European soccer player. But I'm curious. I work in social services and love observing humna behavior. Is there anyone else in the home that likes to play rough, and if not, is there another child in the playgroup from whom he may have adopted the behavior. Neither my wife nor I play rough with our son so I'll be curious to see what does influence him. |
| posted by Patrick on 10/23/2007 05:46 PM
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I am also new the group! I have a son who is 1 month and another son that will be 2 in December. Chase (2yr) plays rough too, but only with certain children. It seems like he knows the "rough" kids and thats who he tackles. If we are at a playgroup and there is girls then he is gentle, even if one of then is "rough". He actually got bit by 2 girls at the same time. The had suck a hold on him we had to pull them off..and he just sat there and screamed, he didnt try to fight back like he would if it were a boy.
So I guess what Im saying is YES I think it is a boy thing, but I have seen some girls take that role too. |
| posted by Ashlee on 10/25/2007 09:43 PM
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I would suggest instead of telling him to "be nice"...explain what the words "gentle" and "kind" mean. These tend to carry more impact with boys...and later, with men...because, well, frankly, girls are "nice"
And only use it when he's really being too rough...like if he's hurting someone. If the boys are just being rough and tumble and it's not hurting anyone and no one is being disobedient, then it's really not a bad thing. |
| posted by Kelly on 10/30/2007 10:06 PM
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| Why do I get the feeling that being a dad on this thread means I better not be too thin skinned? Boys can be nice, they just hide it by being mean... or something like that. |
| posted by Patrick on 10/31/2007 12:12 PM
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| ahhh its nice to hear from the dads... we need more input from them |
| posted by roxanne on 11/27/2007 11:00 AM
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| Hello, I am new to the group, but I just wanted to chime in a little bit. My son is almost 16 months and hasn't had too many opportunities to play with other children his age, especially other boys. I had babysat my 2 great-nephews and great-niece daily until he was 6 months old, but he really couldn't play with them yet. The few occasions that I have watched them since, all he does is pull hair. My one great-nephew is 5 today and my other great-nephew is 2 1/2 and my great-niece is 1 1/2, and he can tackle all of them to the ground and pull their hair! My son is very big for his age and has consistently been off the charts in both weight and height since he was one month old, although he was a large newborn too (8lbs. 15oz.)! I think he just doesn't realize that he's hurting them. When you tell him that he's hurting them, he tries to hug and kiss them to make up. Anytime that we've taken him on outings where there are other children, he does the same thing! It's a little embarrassing, because he makes them cry and then he's made out to be a bully. It's really hard because you don't know what to do to get him to stop and from what I am reading here it seems like this may continue for many months to come. |
| posted by Brandi on 11/28/2007 10:56 PM
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| I have an energetic 3 year old as well. At times it can be a bit much but I have to remind myself that this is who he is and not to stifle it. Some kids are reserved and shy, our boys are outgoing, and energetic. There is nothing wrong with this as long as they dont' get out of controll and know some sort of boundries. IE* hitting or being way to rough- I try to make sure Noah has plenty of activities in his life such as soccer, swim lesson and we are even going to do tumbling starting next week. Boys like are's need this kind of activity! Good Luck I know it's a challange at times! ;) |
| posted by Mikaela on 12/11/2007 12:48 PM
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