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| My daughter is 10 months, 2 weeks. My husband and I were both laid off, shortly after my daughter was born, which was fine, because we had money saved and were able to live comfortably. However, the time has come :( one of us has to go back to work. I was presented with a rare opportunity to go back to work, with great benefits and make a really decent income, but it's full time. I feel guilty. Part of me wants to stay home with my daughter, but, another part of me wants to get back out there and work. My husband would be able to be a stay at home dad, because my income would be good. I've always worked full time and attended University full time, so, I'm used to multitasking. The hardest and most rewarding work for me was being a stay at home mother. However, I'm torn. What did other mothers do in my common situation? Any suggestions? |
| Posted by Michelle on 10/14/2007 03:13 PM
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It is a very tuff decisoin. My son will be three months and we had decided that I needed to go to work to pay off bills so in the future I could stay home. You do feel guilty about going to work and I can't say that that will go away. I just started work a week ago and while my husband can be home with him a majority of the time (he goes to my grandmas the rest) he just recently became sick and as a mom you do feel guilty but you have to tell yourself that you are doing it for him. It will keep you motivated.
Atleast your husband would be able to stay home with him... Thats a good thing. If you *have* to go back to work there is nothing you can do about that.
Good luck! |
| posted by Kalla on 10/14/2007 09:32 PM
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| What a nice situation that you and your husband were able to stay at home with your daughter. Furthermore you are lucky that one income works for your family to allow one of you to stay at home. Its great that your husband is willing and able to be a stay at home dad. My husband works full time and I would like to work part time to seek more of a balance in our household. Love being with my son but also enjoy my profession and the fact that I can be a great mom along with pursuing my carrer. Its reassuring to me to know that my husband will be home with our ten month old and he will be as fortunate as I have been to experience the bonding and teaching and all the joys and challenges in staying at home. I think the guilt comes from a way of thinking that the "mom" must be at home with child and women may worry what other women think....In fact, you are the only one to know what works for you. You may go back to work and find you hate it or you may love it. Choice and change is a great thing so don't every feel like anything has to be permanent. Hope this helps and thanks for letting me voice my feelings in this area. |
| posted by Lori on 10/15/2007 10:36 AM
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Thanks Kalla and Lori
you both made some really good comments. I feel reassured that I am not the only one.
I am curious, how does it FEEL being back at work? |
| posted by Michelle on 10/15/2007 12:39 PM
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Now being back at work... I hate it! Haha! But I am doing it for my son. I am actually exhausted all the time and I don't want to come home and do all the stuff I have to do at home. But I also work in retail and am on my feet the whole time so it is very different!
good luck! |
| posted by Kalla on 10/15/2007 02:27 PM
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| I'm not back at work at this moment...But I'll let you know how it feels when and if it happens! |
| posted by Lori on 10/15/2007 03:27 PM
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| What a blessing for your daughter to have BOTH of her parents at home with her! It's a tough call but your husband will be home with your daughter so that's a huge plus. At least you won't have the expense of daycare. My hubby and I have discussed switching where he'll stay home and I'll work. Let me know how it turns out. Good luck with your decision! |
| posted by Pam on 10/15/2007 08:52 PM
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Thanks, it's nice to know that there are mothers out there sharing with kind comments!
Michelle |
| posted by Michelle on 10/16/2007 09:55 PM
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I have learned over the last 2 years that SAHM vs working Mom is such a personal decision! Even among my friends, it's such a heated topic. I can't imagine going back to work right now. My BF can't imagine not working full time and calls me regularly asking, "Ready to go back to work yet?"
Follow your heart. If you really want to be a SAHM, tell your husband and try it out. I worked part time after my first and quit after my second was born. I was able to work evenings and weekends when my husband was home, and that was great for my son and him to get closer. You just have to figure out how much you can adjust. Make a budget and cut out wasteful spending. Good luck! |
| posted by G on 10/25/2007 05:28 PM
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