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| I just started a new job a month ago. We just moved so it was take what you can get. I liked my job at first but now i don't. I feel like my co-worker treats me like i'm stupid. I don't know how to bring this up to my supervisor (i'm an insurance billing clerk for about 9 dr.s) My co-worker, vanessa, has been there for about 5 years and my position has been filled at least 6 times in the last year. Now i know why..but i don't know how to approach her and tell her that she makes me want to quit. I'm worried that if i bring up this issue that i will be "let go". She is a very angry woman, she lost her son about a year and a half ago, he was 23. I understand she is still hurting from that but when she has bad days she seems to take it out on us. Norma, the other lady who works with me gets tounge lashings too, and the woman is 65 and i don't think she deserves it. Vanessa is constantly telling us that she's told us something a hundred times, why don't we retain information. Then if i do something wrong she asks why i didn't ask her, and i don't feel like i'm really welcome at my job, like i don't fit it. I'm to afraid to stand up to vanessa and tell her how i feel but i can't afford to quit or be fired. My supervisor seems to be quite irritable too, and her and vanessa are pretty good friends. How to i broach the subject, work was so bad on friday i left work early and came home and cried for about half an hour to my husband. I'm normally a very happy person at work and i leave home at work and work at home but lately i can't. I don't know what to do |
| Posted by Amanda on 10/13/2007 10:43 PM
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| Instead of going to your supervisor first ask Vanessa if you could all find a time to sit down and discuss some issues regarding work. If she agrees to this also see if Norma would be willing to sit in on the meeting. Try telling Vanessa that you have noticed some tension between you and her and would like to resolve the issues. Let her know that you like your job and appreciate any advise she could give you to make the new transition smoother, considering she's been there for 5 years. If she responds to your effort of asking for assistants in a good way maybe she will reevaluate the way she has been treating you and see that you are trying to make that effort and return the favor and make an effort herself. If that doesn’t work I suggest going to your supervisor and let her know of the situation also let her know you understand that they are friends but would like to get the issues resolved so everyone can get along. I'm not sure if my advise will help or hurt but GOOD LUCK and I hope you don't have to quit. |
| posted by Melinda on 10/14/2007 04:28 PM
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| I'm sorry to hear that you had such a bad day on Friday. I think Melissa's advice about trying to talk to Vanessa and your supervisor at the same time is a good way to go. If neither one of them seem receptive, does your supervisor has a supervisor that you can talk to instead? Otherwise, I would advise you to look for another job. I don't any job is worth that much heartache. I'll pray for you. |
| posted by Monique on 10/15/2007 01:23 AM
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