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Oh my goodness - how do YOU handle them? I thought having one ten years older than the youngest was bad.
Any one, Cassandra? |
| posted by Kelly on 01/03/2007 09:05 AM
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| When you know the secret, let me know. I'm still trying to figure that one out myself (LOL). Believe me Kimberli, I can relate. My boys are 15, 10, & 3. My oldest runs me down mentally & the youngest runs me down physically. (LOL) I think I need to check my settings. For some reason, I haven't been getting notices about the postings like I use to. That's why it took me so long to reply. Sorry. |
| posted by Cassandra on 01/11/2007 06:04 PM
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| I have a 14 year old and a 4 year old. My teenager thinks he's an adult and he is very challenging at times.My son thinks i'm "dumb" and he has all the answers. Fine I'm dumb. "But as long as you live in my house, you will live by my rules. If not, you better have at least 1 years worth of money put away so that you can support yourself and be responsible" . If he snaps at you, let it roll of your back, like a duck. Being a teenager is tough. They are growing, want to be independent, yet are unclear what they want to do, futurewise. It took a long time for me to understand where he is coming from, and let it roll off my back and don't take it personally. If he snaps, let him. When he snaps, don't chime in. Let him explode, as long as the child does'nt harm you. Then call the police. When he settles down, like a couple hours later, or the next day, bring it to his attention and find a resolution to the problem. For the toddler, don't have him/her watch the child. If you have too, ask them to watch the toddler. Don't assume they have to. In my household, I ask my son, and then we work out an arrangement. If I tell my son he has to watch her, he blows a gasket. What also helps me is to write it down on a calendar what the weeks events are for both. Have your partner/spous give you some free time for yourself, A mom's job is very important. And if Mom is not happy, nobody is. |
| posted by esther on 01/14/2007 05:30 PM
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| With my toddler, I try to keep him busy with activites like playing with his leapad, toys, playdough, and his color books. I, also, have educational computer software for him to play on. This makes him feel "grown up" especially when his older brothers are doing their homeschooling. My oldest son is 15, he has his good days & bad. I can relate to the "I think you are dumb." thing as well. I feel the same way. It's my way or the highway young man so you better learn to like or step out! There are always going to be power struggles. I blame it on homornes. (LOL) My friends with teenage daughters tell me it's worse. Don't get me wrong. I do compromise of some issues, but if we compromise, it has to work out for the both of us. I got to thinking about things to try to help you out, but to be honest. This is all I can offer. It's not much, but I hope it helps out. |
| posted by Cassandra on 01/16/2007 08:20 PM
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I have a13 yr old and 1 yr old.I am soooo tired.I am learning to have a lots of patience.I need so much help i feel so gilty that i dont have time for my 13 year old any more ,he is so moody.
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| posted by Hana on 02/22/2007 03:02 PM
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| I have a 14 yr old girl and a 4 month old girl, I find that my older is very helpful and loving, but at times, I can tell when she is a bit jealous. I try to still have mom and Emmah, my older one, time, my hubby will watch the baby so that Emmah and I can go off and do something together. At 13 or 14 the kids are old enough to understand that you HAVE to pay more attention to the younger child. They may not like it at times, but they do understand. Talk to them about it and explain it over and over again, eventually they will get sick of hearing it and just accept it. I have to say though, that I am so lucky, even though it is rough with my 14 yr old at times, she has been the biggest help to us with the baby. She is a great kid, but still a normal 14 yr old girl...hormonal, moody and I could go on and on. |
| posted by Shawna on 02/23/2007 09:42 AM
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