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| Hi, Kelly I was reading your post about having a emotional disability and I was just wondering if you every read Victory Over Darkness and the Bondage Breaker By Neil Anderson? Those book have been very helpful to my husband and I. Thank you for replying to my post about my daughter. Right after I post my mother-in-law called and insisted that I wake my husband up because it was important that she talk to him and come to find out she was just calling to put pressure on him about his daughter. I don't say anything to her about her stressing my husband out but I did tell her that he was asleep and was stressed out she didn't seem to care, I hold my tongue with her to try to keep peace and she would just hang up on me anyway and call my husband to ask what going on and he tell her she get mad and hang up on him. My husband talking about not having anything to do with her because he said she pushes his button and don't own up to anything, he wanted to know if he was wrong for wanting too. My husband love and care a lot for his mom but know matter what he says she won't stop. |
| Posted by Kellie on 10/09/2007 01:01 AM
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I don't know if I've read that particular book - I've read a ton of literature about depression and spirituality, though!
I'm sure it's very difficult for your husband to have to put up with such undesirable behavior from his mother. I have a friend who is in the same situation. Can't totally separate from this person, but have to guard against getting too involved also.
Some people are able to manage cutting all ties with a difficult parent, but it is emotionally devastating to have to do so. He's certainly not wrong for feeling like he wants to stop having anything to do with her - that's a natural result of her being so difficult.
When my friend felt like she couldn't handle her mother's behavior and attitudes anymore, yet couldn't bring herself to cut off the relationship, she went to God for help. She opened up communications between herself and other family members who knew her mother well. She learned that her mother had been emotionally scarred earlier in life. With God's help, she managed to forgive a lot of the nastiness, and focus on doing her part to make the relationship pleasant. She still days days when she wants to pull her hair out because of something her mother has said, but more often than not she can quietly tell herself, "That's how she is; I can't change it; and I love her anyway."
I'm not sure my friend's solution is the right solution for everyone - especially in cases of physical or verbal abuse. Or in cases where the adult child can't seem to let go of the anger and resentment. In those cases, it is best to cut ties and love someone from afar. |
| posted by Kelly on 10/09/2007 07:36 AM
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