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| I have a young 12yr old daughter who is having a great deal of difficulty with the whole MEAN girl issues in middle school. Is there any one else out there who is also struggling to help their daughters navigate through middle school and have some self esteem left. I would love to join in on any activities that would help her and other daughters. |
| Posted by Jane on 10/05/2007 01:32 PM
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I have had this happen to two of my girls......they just dont fit in right for whatever reason to these mean girls, whether it be dress, attitude or looks.
The best way to diffuse the situation and see what in particular they are picking on. I know we teach our children to be themselves and not change for peer pressure, but sometimes a little change doesnt hurt. Is it the way she dresses? perhaps a little makeover will help? Is it her weight (it was with my daughter), and while I did encourage her to lose, i stressed it wasnt for the mean girls. Is it because she is quiet and shy? Then finding an outside activity would be a great boost. It is hard to answer without more information.
One thing I always did though when my daughter had a bad day, was find what they were picking on, and then turn it around on those girls.......and show my daughters it was the insecurities of the mean girls that caused it. I showed her it was their jealousy |
| posted by Theresa on 10/05/2007 01:40 PM
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| My daughter is dyslexic and reading is her issue. She is very bright but appears "stupid" because of her reading. She is also overweight because of a health problem and if that isn't enough she doesn't get the friendship "clues" that are thrown out there. She is so sweet and so wants friends to hang with. I have been working on her self esteem and ways to turn this around for her. I've gotten her into workshops and groups but still at the end of the day she is still so sad and lonely. It just breaks my heart. |
| posted by Jane on 10/05/2007 02:54 PM
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| Is she in any clubs at school? I read your profile and you said she likes to draw and sing. Is she interested in joining chorus or is there an art club? |
| posted by Amanda on 10/05/2007 04:26 PM
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As far as the dyslexia, has she recieved any special ed for it? I know a few friends of mine were the same, but with extra help by a trained professional (usually paid for by the board of ed) they are taught a different way to read and easily catch up.
Have you taught her what the friendship clues are? and the right reaction? She might be freezing and then telling herself its too late now and thereby reinforcing her reaction by depression.
Health Issue? Is it something where there are others who are going through the same issue that she can become friends with? Perhaps a support group? Even a parent support group because those parents have children also.
Is there at least one or two girls that she does have as friends? If so, invite them over for a day or a sleepover and have their friends also become friends with her, this way she is slowly expanding her circle. |
| posted by Theresa on 10/05/2007 04:32 PM
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