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Sometimes we don't expect people to come out with some racist comment and somehow we are taken so much by surprise that we really don't say anything. Wouldn't it be good to have a ready answer so that to make sure that person is going to think twice before saying something racist ever again?
I guess we can't control thoughts but we can control language.
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| Posted by Vero on 03/12/2007 12:30 PM
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| I guess this would have to depend on the comment itself. Can you give an example Vero? |
| posted by Jennifer on 03/23/2007 03:24 AM
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If you come across prospective home buyer in your neighbourhood and they ask you if there are any minorities living there? Well the person will not see himself as a racist but in reality he is making a racist comment. What would you say? Yes? No? Why it matters? Do you have a problem with it? By the way by husband is part of the so called minority?
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| posted by Vero on 03/23/2007 01:41 PM
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This of course is his feeling, and quite frankly, I have lived in many neighborhoods over the years that range in economic status and on both ends, and do not feel that money has anything to do with pride. Even the nicest of neighborhoods have questionable characters. This had nothing to do with the color of their skins, but the content of their character (as he would put it), as those (he feels) who do not have honorable characters do not care about anything they have, and more specifically, would not care about anything we have as well.
Getting back to you question, I would probably state that you have never had that question posed (which will probably convey a message to them), so you are truly not aware of the ethnicities of the homeowners. I would probably then mention that although you are not sure of the minority ratio, they can see how nice the neighborhood is, and you are sure they would only love the neighborhood even more if they decided that was the home for them.
I think that a statement such as that, depending on the tone of voice) was not meant to sound biggoted. Unfortunately, we live in a society in which each and everything we say can, and does get interpreted in specific ways. I try not to get to wrapped up in things which can be too controversial as I find there is always someone who is going to not like my POV. Although we may not like anothers POV, they are entitled to it regardless of if we agree or not. Certain situations can be addressed as you mentioned above, with the words we choose to use, but I just remember when I hear something that may tick me off (especially about my DHs race), is that they are not talking about my hubby, nor do they even know who he is. I definitely pick my battles, and quite frankly, having grown up Caucasian in a Mexican area, I am the minority, and have heard many a racist comment about "whites". There is probably more stuff that bothers you then that which bothers your DH (I know this is the case with my hubby and I). |
| posted by Jennifer on 03/25/2007 02:57 PM
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I am a Real Estate Agent. My husband is African American and I am caucasian. We have a beautiful 5 month old daughter.
I want to comment on the question about home buyers asking questions of this nature. In the real estate world a smart agent would not answer this question period. We are instructed to reply that answering questions of this nature would be in violation of Federal Fair Housing Act. We do not know the minority mix up of the neighborhood. It is not the nature of our profession to research this information. Then express the positive things about the neighborhood ex. parks, schools, etc. Even if you as an agent know the majority of an area is made up of one particular race, you are not supoose to express that knowldge.
Sometimes a seller will request up front that he does not wish to sell his home to a certain minority group. A smart agent would express that he or she can not discriminate against anyone interested in purchasing this home. If the owner still insists, then I personally and most other agents as well, would not take this listing. If I did take this listing and a buyer of the particular minority group made an offer that was refued by the seller, then by law, I would be required if asked to explain to the buyer that seller refused the offer because of his or her race, religion, etc...whatever the case me be.
This is a very difficult situation to be in and one I try to avoid at all cost. |
| posted by Elizabeth on 03/27/2007 09:50 AM
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Thank you Elizabeth for enlightened me on this question...I guess laws have to be made for people to change.
Vero |
| posted by Vero on 03/27/2007 12:08 PM
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