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| I am pretty sure everyone has been there. At least I have A LOT lately. Hee Hee. |
| posted by Lisa on 09/22/2007 01:18 PM
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| Don't worry I was there this week too....for the past 2 weeks my husband has been working alot of overtime...(yes which is great cause the money is good)...but I am with the baby almost 5 months old..all day by myself too...Last Saturday he worked a 14 hour day and he is working again today!! They don't realize that we need a break too!!! So we have all been there!!! Just keep taking the deep breaths thats what I do!! |
| posted by Kelly on 09/22/2007 01:53 PM
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Seriously, I don't know how SAHMs do it. I have part-time work out of the house, but some of my job requires work at home. I love being the primary caretaker of my child, but I love the days when we take him to the sitter, too!
Anyway, hats off to all the SAHMs out there!!! |
| posted by Jade on 09/22/2007 01:53 PM
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| I can totally relate. I work every other weekend from Friday nite at 4pm until Sun nite 8pm. In the begining, I would come home and the house was trashed!! I knew everything the ate, played and changed into. We fought alot. I felt that I keep everything clean and picked up during the week why couldn't he do it on the weekends? He told me that after that first weekend he appreicated all that I do and how do I get it all done. Our compromise was a house cleaner every other Monday after the weekends I work. My advise. Leave him home with her and take a girls weekend away and see how it feels. You deserve it. |
| posted by Michelle on 09/22/2007 05:04 PM
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| Hey good news...I get payback, as I need to leave town fo a whole week. While I know I will miss my family like crazy, I am guiltfully looking forward to my vacation. It isn't really a vactiion, as I am going out of town for work, but I still know it will be a blast. Oh, and since baby and me have weaned form breastfeeding, I can have a much-anticipated girls' night out! I am so psyched!!! |
| posted by Jade on 09/27/2007 05:21 AM
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| You are so lucky. When my son was born I never thought I would want a few days away but with the terrible twos setting in big time I am ready for a few days away.... |
| posted by Lisa on 09/27/2007 08:51 AM
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| I feel that way too when I come home from work and he's been home all day with the baby, and then he has to go to work and I get stuck doing all the dishes and picking up the house...all while I have to watch the baby by myself. How is it that I can do it but he can't? |
| posted by Morgan on 09/27/2007 09:09 PM
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Robin,
I can totally relate to your post, in fact it sounded so familiar that I had to double check I hadn't written it myself! I am a SAHM and I love it, but sometimes I do need a break. My husband teaches at two colleges (one full-time), is working on a dissertation (in school himself) and picks up jazz gigs.I always feel like everyone else in my family has time for their own personal things, but me. Some days I feel like it's a challenge to even run off to the bathroom or brush my teeth. I have never been so impressed with what women as mothers are capable of. We are truly awesome and often underappreciated! |
| posted by gia on 11/11/2007 01:35 PM
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Hey gia!
I am glad you know where I am coming from. What does your husband play? Mine's a drummer/percussionist.
How's life these days? We are managing to spread the duties fairly evenly between parenting and work committments. The only thing we don't have down is time for each other. But really, who has time for their spouse anyway? Just kidding...sort of. I know that sounds awful, but it is kind of true, unfortunately! |
| posted by Jade on 11/12/2007 10:17 PM
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| I know exactly where you are coming from. My husband just started trucking from being unemployed for the past 5 months(so I am extremely thankful to have money coming in), but he is gone for a month! This is the worst part of it for his training, then he will be gone two weeks at a time. So far he has only been gone a week and I am already needing him back here to help. Keep taking deep breaths though and it will be alright! |
| posted by Ashley on 01/08/2008 09:33 PM
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| Wow, Ashley, a whole month! I don't know how you do it. Hang in there! If you can do it, do can I! |
| posted by Jade on 01/08/2008 11:24 PM
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Oops, misprint. If you can do it, SO can I
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| posted by Jade on 01/08/2008 11:24 PM
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| I had no idea there were so many other mother's out there with such a simular problem. I thought I was having relationship issues for a while, then I started to tell myself he works and when he gets home he is tired. I have now started telling myself he has not grasped the responsibilities yet. I think I am in denial. When he does something for our oldest son; example changes his diaper the diaper is left where he changes it, gives him a bath the water is left in and the clothes and towel are left on the floor or gets him a drink he leaves the jug on the counter... etc... etc... The worst part of it is that when he comes home sometimes he just wanders downstairs to sit in his video game room and play games. He does not come up until he goes to bed. My older son sometimes realizing he is home sits and cries at the door. He misses daddy. I sometimes take him downstairs to sit with daddy but he sits and plays games(my son does sit on his lap). I do not think it is the best quality time because the games he plays are mostly killing games. Every time he has off( 10 on & 4 off) we go to his mothers for those days. You would think it would be a break, but he makes the money so he does most all of the shopping. He goes out with his friends until 1am or 2. He thinks his mom can do his laundry while we are there and he leaves everything where it is after he usesit. He still sits in her basement while we are there and plays his video games. I try to clean up after him while trying to keep after my babies in someone elses house. Goodness that opened a lot of sores. I am sorry to go on on your blog but I am not brave enough to start a blog with that comment. He is a good father. Sometimes he gets down on his hands and knees and plays in his tunnels and such. I would love to, but if I got stuck I think he might smother his brother. He lays on top of him to give him hugs and kisses. Cute but scary. Not sure what I should think of him but want to give him time to grow up. He did so well when the first one was born and younger. I do not weant to make excuses for him but I love him and I love my kids. There just must be a better way. Thanks for listening. Sorry for ranting. |
| posted by Michelle on 02/29/2008 02:48 PM
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| Video games are bad.I wasted too much time on the darn things.They are addictive and can rip up marriages.Ppl meet others on the games and have affairs.I know all this; because I had to live w it.I would def. ask my hubby what game he is playing and who he is playing it with.I would ask hm what it is that is so appealing on the game that he has to replace it w real life and leave you and kids out?Tell him how you feel.There use to be a website of males and females married to gamers and all the problems that it was causing at home and in their marriages/engagements.WOW?Ultima Online?Lord of the Rings?Second Life? |
| posted by Lexi on 02/29/2008 04:22 PM
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| I have to admit now that my husband has come home from trucking a couple of times now, that I prefer him to be gone! I hate to say that, but he just left this morning and all we did was fight because I have to beg him to do anything around the house. I love him dearly and I miss him like crazy, but as soon as he comes home I am practically wanting him to leave again. I got to the point that I told him to grow up and take responsibility as a parent. I know that he works hard at his job and he needs a break too, but I work and take care of the house and the baby. I need a break! I don't expect to sit around and he does everything, but every little thing I ask him to do he whines about. I hate whining!!! He had the nerve to say to me one time that getting up in the night to take care of our daughter made him nauseous! All he has to do is put the pacifier back in her mouth and make sure that she doesn't press her face to the mattress(she does this occaisionally leaving barely enough room for her to breath...really creepy). As I said I love my husband, but he seems just like another kid to take care of at times. Sorry for ranting but I am just so frustrated!!! |
| posted by Ashley on 02/29/2008 10:00 PM
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I have come to the conclusion that men and taking care of baby and cleaning will almost never happen.... Men can't multi task like women can. We start young by talking on the phone doing homework and watching TV all at once. Men are not capable...he he he
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| posted by Kristhal on 03/03/2008 01:06 PM
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| Well I am going to have to disagree w that statement because MEN can multi-task! Wanna know why???When it is something that interests them!!!hehehehehehehehehe |
| posted by Lexi on 03/09/2008 07:29 PM
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| I completely know how you feel. My husband is gone for a 72 hour shift a week. Three days in a row and i'm a sahm with a 13.5 month old. Sometimes I just wanna rip my hair out. |
| posted by kimberly on 04/22/2008 12:25 PM
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| i totally understand! im home all day with my 8 month old while his father works, and then i go to work over night from 11-7am. so belive me i understand the fustration, u feel like a single parent, and for some reaon the men dont understand how fustrating and stressful it can be, and like u i just moved to a new area a few months ago, my fam is also real far. lucky for me my sons godfather lives like 2 mins away so he gives me breaks. just keep ur head up and when u get to that piont where u wanna just scream and ur baby is driving u crazy, do what i do, but him in his crib, give him a bottle of juice, and close the door. and go some where in the house so u wont hear him crying. this gives mama and over stimulated baby a needed break. good luck and god bless |
| posted by neka on 07/17/2008 01:48 PM
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i am a stay at home mom and my husband decides that its better to help others then hangout with his own son. His friend is trying to get his child from for an ex, so my husband thinks that he needs to help him through every step and i am happy he is so nice. But he spends more time on the stupid phone with his friend then playing with his own kid. And he works from 7 to 4 which is nice but when he comes home he goes outside and smokes which includes calling his friend once again. then i am watching our son and cooking dinner while he catches up on his shows. Then dinner is ready and i have to feed our son then i go on a walk with my husbands mom then bath time and bed. Which he doesn't help with oh then i get to pick up toys and do bottles. i would like a minute to myself when i am not ready to drop at 8 after our son goes to bed! |
| posted by Courtney on 10/27/2010 05:54 PM
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