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What have you all found to help you raise confident, compasionate men?
natasha |
| Posted by Natasha on 09/15/2007 11:03 PM
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| My "little man" is young too, and so I'd also like to know. |
| posted by busygirl0219 on 09/16/2007 01:22 AM
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| Well my son is only 5, but what I do is be compasionate towards others myself to set an example for him. You can start this anytime no matter how young. In courge them to help you. As they get older In courge them to help others. I tell my son that is what love is. I tell you it works. Not too long ago my son was over my neighbors house. She's 50 years old and has MS. She fell and my son help her get up and got help for her. She said she wouldn't know what she would do if my son wasn't there! I was so proud of him. He was over there helping her put laundry in. We took him out and bought him toy for a reward. When he gets a little older we are going to volunteer. |
| posted by Melissa on 09/16/2007 10:02 AM
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| i think it depends on the child to begin with. My oldest son is almost ten i think it depends on how you raise him i think he will be because he thinks of others before himself and with my second son i am not sure but i think he might be he is a year |
| posted by Elizabeth on 09/16/2007 04:02 PM
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| I agree that it depends on the child. My oldest was pretty much born compassionate! He was the little one in the nursery trying to comfort the other crying babies....at 1 or 2 years of age! My other two are STRONG WILLED...it will be a learning process for both of them. I am already seeing it in my youngest (will be 2 at the end of Oct.). He knows that when he hurts his brother that he has to say he is sorry and give his brother a hug. I'll tell him to "Say your sorry" and he does and then automatically gives his brother a hug (with no other prompting from me). I really think that by being consistant and showing compassion yourself is what really models it for them. There are all types of boys/men in the world and compassion is easier for some than it is for others but, I think that with prayer and God's help that ANY boy can grow up to be confident and compassionate! We also do a charity or volunteer act several times a year and discuss why we are doing it. For example: We have SO MANY toys and there are some children that do not have ANY! Lets decide which toys we can donate to those children. We have SO MUCH to be thankful for....lets do something nice for a family that doesn't have as much as we do. Even buying a newspaper and two cups of coffee and leaving it on a neighbor's door step and then playing "ding dong ditch!" I think that it's really about showing your children how much they truly have and how blessed we truly are even when things aren't going so well for us...there is ALWAYS someone that has less or needs "it" more than we do. Their eyes always light up by knowing that they are doing something nice for other people or making someone feel better about themselves or just feeling better in general. |
| posted by Amy on 09/16/2007 08:43 PM
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| I agree that some are more naturally compassionate and kind. My son is soon to turn a year old and he is already showing signs of being a compassionate and loving little man. When I'm holding him and he gets a little rough while playing with me ( you know, hitting me on the head or pulling hair, as all babies do) I'll say, " Owee, that hurt" and then he'll let me know that he is sorry and pat my head. It's in baby language, but I know what he's saying. When my neice is over ( she's 1 1/2 years old) all he wants to do is play with her and love on her. He is not that interested in independent play. When she's crying he goes to see what is the matter with her. Also, when he was born, the nurse told me that there was a very sick baby in the nursery and when they wheeled my baby by he cooed at the baby, as to say, " Everything is going to be o.k.". He's been an angel ever since. I'm a very lucky mama. :) |
| posted by busygirl0219 on 09/17/2007 02:14 AM
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| Amy, my son too has an October birthday. Do you believe in astrology? Good natured Libra; always believing in being fair, good and promoting balance with every situation. |
| posted by busygirl0219 on 09/17/2007 02:18 AM
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| I am not really into astrology and it cracks me up that that desciption would be said of my youngest! He's SOO strong-willed and a total "linebacker" in actions and personality. He wants what he wants, when he wants it and if it doesn't happen WATCH OUT!!! We are obviously working on this lack of self control but, he'll soon be 2 so, it's not like I expect him to be a perfect angel. I am just hoping that we at least start to get it under control because I know that my other two skipped the "Terrible Twos" and both had the "Terrible Threes"! So, I am hoping to have another year to work on this! |
| posted by Amy on 09/17/2007 08:20 AM
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| How I taught my boy's compassion was if I saw them say take a toy from another toy (once they were about 2 or 3 years old) I would go to my son('s) and ask him how he would feel if someone took the toy he was playing with? Then same thing if they were hitting each other or someone else. This way they see how they would feel in that situation if something like that happened to them. As they get older you can teach them more but it's the way we started out and both my boy's are very compassionate young boy's. |
| posted by Jody on 09/17/2007 02:20 PM
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