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Yes, with ss gone Hubby seemed very relaxed, cheerful. But it was short lived. Heading home Friday after work, Hubby called my cell phone, Seems SD was told she could not stay at mother's house while mother was in hospital. The reason being, she has threatened SF several times that she would call the cops on him for inappropriate behavior towards her. So hubby asked if she could stay with us ONE night. Plus he said he had offered to take a loopk at her truck. She has convinced mother and Grandfather that this one is a lemon and she needs another one. SD has had this one three months and it is her fourth vehicle. Hubby continued to talk to me till I finally told him okay, one night and she leaves after her truck is done. Then I told him, I know she will not have the money for the parts for her truck, so you can tell her to consider it a birhday present. (BD 9/27). Fortunately the parts were $60.00 and three hours of hubby's time. Needed an oil change, radiator flush, rotate tires. Hubby drove it nothing wrong with it.
Did not hear from SS Friday, or Saturday. But did get automated message from the school that he did not attend either Thursday or Friday. SD showed up Saturday morning asked if I would run her to do an errand while her dad worked on her truck. I told her no, she should help her dad. So, being angry with me she left without a thank you to her dad, when he finished.
Saturday night, big dirtbike race at gatorback. My son went with a teammate who qualified. Son said ss was there sporting two new 2 carat (pink cz) earrings, in both ears. Said he was a real a-- to everyone including the girlfriend of the boy who he is staying with. The mother of said friend witnessed his behavior and told him he was not to come back to her house.SS spent over $100.00 to come is second to last place, he is a beginner rider, but thinks he is a superstar. He was not able to qualify for the main race.
Sunday, ss work called, he was an hour late and appeared to be a no show. We gave them his cell number. Mother, back home now, called around 7 pm. ss never went to work went to a bbq. Now he has no clean clothes for school tommorow, and no place to stay the night (kicked out of friends house) Mom started to lay down the rules and he left. I told hubby, this is not over. SS pattern is to call late at night to start making arrangements when people are tired and tend to give in easily. 9:30 pm, phone rings, it is mother. SS has no where to go can he come back home and go back to being a student at our house? Hubby told her to tell him no, but give he should call when hubby gets off work today and will discuss.
Soooo, ladies. I know I am getting ready to be put on the spot. Do we let him back in on our terms, which he will not agree to and probably not come back. Or do we stand our ground and it is no longer an option? |
| Posted by Kathy on 09/10/2007 08:34 AM
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| I would have to say that you and hubby need to stand your ground and not let him back. You both know he will continue with the same old s**t. The law sees him as an adult since he is 18, so tell him to go stay in a shelter if he has too. It seems that he needs to hit rock bottom and he should be the one to pull himself out (along with sd). As far as sd, 4 cars are you kidding?? She has no idea how good she has it. Your family has gone through so much having them in your lives, if they cant follow the rules (which there are always going to be no matter where they live or work) then they should not be a part of your lives. |
| posted by on 09/10/2007 08:52 AM
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I wouldn't let him back on ANY terms. He's abused his welcome. However, as I've point out before, this isn't my son or ss. And I'm not married to the father.
It would be a backslide to allow him into your house again. He can stay at a shelter, it won't kill him. If he thinks he's too good for that, he's wrong. With his crappy behavior having to go to a shelter because no one else will have him stay is called logical consequences. |
| posted by Kelly on 09/10/2007 10:17 AM
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| The answer lies among all the advice several women have posted. Maybe it's time to go back and re-read some of the responses. It might open your eyes and help you. |
| posted by esther on 09/11/2007 09:30 PM
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