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| Public group from Arlington, TX |
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| well i have been home for 7 mnths now. Still find it hard to make friends, really i still have made no stay at home friends and all my work ones seem to be busy when i am not and available when i am not. I think my house was cleaner when i was working and i know i got more sleep but some where inside me i think i might be doing something right but then again who knows. i dont watch tv so that i dont become hooked on the day shows but having a 7mnth old does not leave you with alot of time to read. and i swear he is attached to me ALL the time (i breastfeed) and napping well forget it unless i lay with him then he will sleep for at least an hour and if not then maybe 30m max. so how does one find time to keep house and all the other stuff that i used to be able to do when i was working that i cant seem to find time to do now. i think my family thinks i forgot how to cook too. |
| Posted by dede on 09/02/2007 03:29 PM
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| I have only been home 2.5 months and I wonder if I will ever get anything done. Breast fed babies don't sleep for long stints because the milk processes so efficiently. I have taken to having my husband feed my baby formula at bed time so the baby sleeps longer. During the day it is all breast feeding all the time. Sometimes I put him in his swing and he will doze off long enough for me to fold a load of laundry or do some dishes. I am trying very hard to be easy on myself and cling to the hope the baby and I will be able to develop a routine soon and I can get his nursery done (he came a month early and I was NOT ready). As far as making friends it seems like groups like this should be helpful, though I am new here so I can't vouch for that. I have one other friend who is a stay at home mother of two. I am going to pick her ear sometime in the next couple of weeks to see if she has any advice on time management. |
| posted by Amanda on 09/02/2007 08:04 PM
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| Hey dede and Amanda - I have a 2 year old, a one year old, and 10 week old so I feel your pain as well. I was a working mom until the birth of our last baby and now find myself a sahm having to re-learn everything I thought was important. I am breastfeeding my 10 week old and he seems attached constantly but we, too, do formula most nights - it seems to help him sleep longer and it allows hubby to take a late night feeding about once a week (ha ha) - we also do pumped milk at night - for some reason he stays awake longer to take milk from a bottle than he does when he's on the breast. Anyways, as far as the housekeeping - I am a big fan of the slings/carriers so that I can get things done and still keep the little one happy (I did this with my other 2 as well) but I know some babies don't like it as much as my children do/did. Good luck guys - hang in there - it does get better :-) - Melissa |
| posted by Melissa on 09/02/2007 09:20 PM
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Keep it up!!!
I am a SAHM of two. One 21 month old and a 4 yr old. I have been staying home with my kids for 3 yrs and my house is NEVER clean. I cook about 3 days a week and have to fight for a shower, forget about naps!!
I feel like staying home is a VERY selfless and rewarding thing! Not much is easier or as appreciated. But keep it up!!!
I joined and now moderate a group for SAHMs. You should join!! We have I think 3-4 moms who are breastfeeding little ones right now and I am SURE they would love to be support for you. I know I needed a lot of it when I was nursing my little ones (especially the first one).
It is a yahoo group called arlingtonmoms (no space). We get together for playgroups all of the time and do a MNO once a month. Tons of fun!! I don't know what I would do w/o this group!!
I am sorry you are having a slump right now and would love to help!!
devonrochelle@gmail.com
-Devon |
| posted by devon on 09/02/2007 09:22 PM
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Hi everyone.
Thanks for you notes of encouregement. I cried not sure why but i did. i guess it just helps to know that there are other moms out there who are going thru this stuff too. i just find it so hard to not be able to control my life like i used to ( to a certain point anyway) now it all on gabriels time frame. i tried to feed him formula once and that was a no go he cried and i cried and well i am sure you get the point and as for pumping my mom is the only person who can get him to take a bottle of expressed milk and she lives in KS. my husband is a cop who works nights so is not home for those lovely night time feedings so i let the baby sleep with me to make it easier for me for the feeding but sitll have to travel across the house to chnge him. i did try one of those front pouches for him but he is to big for them now, and by that i mean he is over 21 lbs and close to 30ins so when i last used it he busted the side strap that was helping hold him in and i have gone through to swings with him and ... i would love to visit your groups. i have been looking for one but did not know how or where . i know that what i am doing is going to mean something in the long run and that is what i think of everyday when i wish for the hustle and bustle of work life plus to look at his chubby face makes it all worth the unfolded laundry or the dirty dishes or the dust cause i did not get to it last week or so far this week. thanks again ladies for making my day. |
| posted by dede on 09/03/2007 08:32 PM
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| Well ladies, I am right with you on most everything you have said. I have been having small successes as the kids get older. But it's super easy to forget that things are getting a little better, when your in the chaos of it all. I have a 3 yr old girl and a 2 yr old boy (14 mos apart) and some days I wonder if I am going to make it to bedtime. But I do, and then I get a fresh new day to start over with. My son was (and still is) clinging and I used the carriers too. You might look into getting the next size up- it's for bigger baby's and toddlers. It's by Playtex and they sit on your side. I sometime put my 3 yr girl in it when she gets too tired/cranky to walk (if we are out and about). As far as the housework - it never stops, just like the mail. My mom helped me put together a schedule of various items each day. This helped in many ways. I didn't have to think about what I was supposed to do that day- good for days that I had little sleep. And I knew that everything would get done- therefore removing the stress. Now I will confess that I don't always stick to it, but it definately helped lay the foundation. And then somedays, you just let it all hang out, and hope know one is watching you :) |
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