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Hello everyone!
My name is Nashiea and I have two kids, Michael (4) and Laney (1) and 1 bonus child Eliz (15).
Things are going ok, we don't have a "traditional blended family" (if there is such a thing). We don't have court agreements or regular visitation. We just call informally to share an invite (& vice versa).
Just kind of wondering what other blended families do & if our situation really is "different!"
Hope to hear (& learn) from everyone!!
:) Nash |
| Posted by Nashiea on 03/08/2007 06:15 PM
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Welcome!! Well let me first say that you are very very lucky to have such a situation. Many families can and do operate this way and they are able to make joint decisions based on the welfare of the kids involved. My situation is nothing like that and I am always happy to hear others can work it out.
We have custody of all of the kids and of course we have COs (court orders) on both sides. In our court orders it spells out who drops off and picks up, where that must take place, what time it must happen, holidays, vacations, and that each parent pays for 1/2 of uncovered medical, 1/2 childcare, and so on. My SD's mother doesn't pay child support, she rarely gets visitation, and she isn't in a very good place. My ex gets regular visitation but he has an issue with paying his support in a timely manner. Very sad. |
| posted by Tonya on 03/08/2007 06:26 PM
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Hi Tonya!
You know, once I tried lurking on another message board for step-families and got so intimidated because it seemed like it was biological mothers vs. step-mothers!
I am not going to say that I don't disagree with Eliz's BM, I think disagreements will always occur. For the most part it's up to my husband to handle those touchy issues. It seems that I'm most at peace just being kept in the loop if that makes any sense?
I agree that our situation is better than many. My SD is now a teenager and I'm wondering if it's typical for the relationship to "change" a little as the children get older...I have noticed the dynamic is changing some...
:) Nash |
| posted by Nashiea on 03/08/2007 07:02 PM
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| BTW, I'm referring to the relationship between my step-daughter & me ;-) |
| posted by Nashiea on 03/08/2007 07:04 PM
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| Well Nashiea I can understand the dynamics of biological mothers against stepmothers and I can also see some boards pit those too against each other. I also belong to two others boards one for step families and one for stepmothers. Since I am both I always hope that I can see both sides and I always take into account how I would feel. |
| posted by Tonya on 03/09/2007 10:17 AM
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