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| I am just looking for comfort I suppose: My little girl will be starting full time day care soon, 5 days a weeek and she will be about 15 weeks then. Its breaking my heart that I will have to be apart from her all day and although I love my job, I really wish that I did not have to work but my hubby is self employed and we need the insurance. I am really lucky in that I have day care right where I work and it is really much more afordable that other places and just as good if not better. I am happy that she will be near if anything happens and if I am needed I am only a minute away. I am happy that she will be safe and well cared for as well as having the opportunities for socializing and early education BUT I am so scared that she will forget me and my husband...am I just crazy? |
| Posted by Emily on 08/23/2007 10:06 AM
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My daughter is 3 1/2 months now and she has been going to daycare for 3 weeks or so. You're not crazy, but it is hard. I found that I enjoy my daughter more, now that I am not with her all the time. I don't feel so much like she is work. As for forgetting you, no way. It is wonderful to see her big smile when I come pick her up. Her eyes follow me as I gather her things together before we leave. She knows I am MOM. Plus, she gets to interact with children her age and older, which is good for her. The babies all love looking at one another. She won't forget you. You and your husband are her parents and no child care can change that. Just remember to savor the time you do get with her. If the worst thing that ever happens to her is she has more people to love that take care of her, you will consider yourself very fortunate. It's hard, but I know it's the right place for my daughter and for me. Good luck!
PS. Try not to be too clingy. Visit during lunch if it won't upset you and you miss her. But don't hover forever. She'll be fine! |
| posted by Jen on 08/23/2007 10:18 AM
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| Thanks...I will try:) |
| posted by Emily on 08/23/2007 10:30 AM
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| It is really hard to leave your child, whether it be daycare of just going back to work. I almost quit my first day back because I hated leaving my daughter. She is 18 months now and doing well. I think it is harder for us then for them. At least having it at work, anytime you need a baby fix you can go down and see your little girl. I am sending you strong and supportive thoughts!! |
| posted by Jennifer on 08/23/2007 11:05 AM
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| i totallly know what ur goin though. my son is 8 months old and i have to start leavin him with a nanny starting the 4th. Its killin me cuz i work for a school and i havent left him yet. Im lucky enough that my hubby works on site at my apts and pops in throughout the day all the time, but still, i have to spend 8-10 hours a day away from him. Hope all goes well for you!!! |
| posted by Jennifer on 08/23/2007 11:20 AM
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Hi Emily!
Well, for what it's worth, my mom put me in daycare and both my parents worked, for as long as I can remember. I never for a second feel like I was neglected. I am one of five, and to support us all, they had to work. But more than that, I know my mom loved her career field.They came to my school events and were always there for me otherwise. Honestly, I respect my mom so much for what she accomplished in her field, and she is an inspiration to me to continue my work even though I am a parent now myself.
Oh, and your child will ALWAYS know who the mama is ;)
You're doing great!!!!
Robin |
| posted by Jade on 08/23/2007 11:22 AM
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| I know how you feel. My son will be starting daycare next week. He is 6 month olds. I have been lucky that I got to be with him this long. But I have to go back to school and we had to find someone. He will be in a home daycare which I like 1) it is affordable and 2) not so many kids he gets more one on one attention. It is breaking my heart to leave him with someone else. You are lucky she will be close to you and you can go see her. Don't be scared about her forgetting you and your husband she will never forget her parents :) Good luck. |
| posted by Amanda on 08/24/2007 09:18 AM
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