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Hi. My name is Savanah and I recently joined this group, so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 22, married, live in Small Town, IA, and have two little boys. The oldest is 23 months and the youngest is 5 weeks old. I am a work from home mom and run an online metaphysical institute and store.
My biggest problem with being a stay at home mom is the comments I hear about how easy it is and how my house should be spotless at all times since I don't have anything to do. My husband thinks it is a lot easier than it is, even though he was home while I was in the hospital with our youngest. He had lots of help from my family though and seems to forget that normally everyone is at work.
Savanah |
| Posted by Savanah on 08/21/2007 12:30 PM
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Oh Savannah
I hate it also how people think this job sahm is a piece of cake it isnt ! It is the hardest job I have ever had. The people who judge us I noticed are usually just jealous !!
Laura |
| posted by laura on 08/21/2007 01:00 PM
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hi i'm a stay at home mom too and i get that all the time why is your house not in tip top shape i say its cause i do watch my kids and i cant do everything at once
i also think that those ppl that make the comments are just jelous too because they probley wanna be able to stay home and cant |
| posted by Crystal on 08/21/2007 01:18 PM
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| Welcome to the group! I understand completely! I agree with the other girls that the people who have comments are probably just jelous |
| posted by Amanda on 08/21/2007 01:42 PM
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A wise older woman told me years ago to keep a journal. That way on days you feel down or not productive or someone plants the seed in your mind that you are not contributing to your home then you can see the truth by reading through your journal.
List everything! Including how long it takes to accomplish different tasks. Men don't realize that curtains don't get washed by themselves :)
Then multiply everything by $20 an hour per child, because that's how much it would cost to pay a stranger to do it.
It takes a while to create the habit at first so I leave it on the kitchen table and write as I think of things. Some days its just a list, others include thoughts, recipes, things I want to do in the future ect...
Another tip, create a morning routine just for you to do each day then you'll feel better.
Keep empty laundry baskets available to throw things into for the moments unexpected guests show up, or days when you don't get everything done you had planned, then you can shove it in a closet and sort it out the next day.. :) |
| posted by Tina on 08/21/2007 02:32 PM
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| That is a great idea Tina! |
| posted by Amanda on 08/21/2007 04:39 PM
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| Welcome to the group Savanah. what people dont understand is how much we do sacrifice to be a sahm, they are just jealouas they arent. dont worry about the comments you do what you are doing i am sure you are doing a great job. |
| posted by Natasha on 08/21/2007 08:25 PM
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| Welcome to the group. I will echo what everyone else has said, and add that this is the most difficult and rewarding job you will ever have, so be proud of yourself for doing it! My house is messy sometimes because I would prefer to spend time enjoying my son and watching him as he discovers new things in the world around him than be obsessed with having a "perfect" house. I prefer the "lived in" look anyway. :) |
| posted by Marcia on 08/22/2007 09:16 AM
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Wait a second... You are a WORK at home mom in addition to staying at home?? How do you do it all? And how many hours does your husband expect you to spend on your business in addition to keeping up the house and caring for the kids? There can't be enough hours in the day for your busy life. Do you sleep?
My mom was a SAHM to myself and my three younger brothers. She is constantly sniping at me for they way I spend my time and the condition of the house (which is actually not that bad) -- but our memories of her are of her CONSTANTLY cleaning and of our NEVER having a done a job well enough to meet her standards. Wouldn't you (and wouldn't your husband) rather your kids have happier memories of the time you spent with them? It takes me three or more times longer to get a simple job like empty the dishwasher done because I'm interrupted CONSTANTLY trying to keep my little ones safe and happy while I do my chores. And how much longer does it take to do ANYTHING when you are doing it with one hand? But if it helps, check out flylady.net for some strategies on keeping up with everything you have to do. |
| posted by Cindy on 08/22/2007 10:50 AM
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