My son is scheduled to see a phychologist and a neuro-psychologist this summer. He has been in o.t. for years for SPD. Yesterday he got very violent and split my lip. He tried to jump from his bedroom window all because I didn't say please to him. I spent the evening in the e.r. only to be told I am a crappy parent (at least that is what I heard). I am feeling guilty because I feel like running. I feel like no matter how many love and logic books I read, parenting classes I take, counselors we see, the only answers I get are more routines, rewards, punishment..... and no one is hearing that he isn't learning from consequences, and can't tell me he is hungry or tired even though he has a very high vocabulary. I feel hopeless, and more upset by my 3 year old not potty training than I should be.