i am a mom of one spirited 3 year old boy. he is very smart and curious and often deliberatly disobeys things i ask or things he knows not to do. i work full time and want to enjoy the time we have together without stress! any ideas for helping him listen better?

A caught you being good jar is a great place to start with posative discipline,  check it out on pinterest for inspiration but the idea is every time you see your kid being good(with focus on their self directed activities) you put something in the jar. When the jar is full the child gets a prize of some sort (my girl likes to play video games so we let her play for an hour once the jar is full).

Other than that, we've also used behavior charts andthat's been incredibly effective as well:-)