I went through this with my musician boyfriend about 2 years ago. We got stuck in a rut where we lost the romance and were always arguing. I found that I had to change my own behavior before I expected him to change his behavior. I tried for about a month to not argue with what he said or did. I made sure to do sweet little things here and there....like writing him a love letter and sticking it in his guitar case so that he would find it. After about a month, his behavior started changing as well because he noticed that I was making an effort as well. |