I am just at my wits end with groupies!  It would be easier to handle if they didn't smile to my face and try to buddy up with me when their intentions are so completely phoney.  My favorites are the ones who have figured out which gigs I can't attend because I am stuck home with a child or in school and show up to those gigs and try their hardest to throw themselves at my husband.  Then I get to hear about it from other people and it's humiliating.  There is one in particular that I have repeatedly told to stay away from my husband and his gigs and she just won't listen.  I've caught her sending him inappropriate messages and pictures on facebook and texting him and when confronted she claims that she is just an innocent "friend." I call b.s! He's blocked her from his phone and computer but she just keeps going to gigs.  I've even tried to threaten her with violence and to no avail she just shows up at gigs when she knows I'm not there.  Then there's the groupies that hit on him right in front of me!  I've never been a violent person but then again I've never been married and when this happens I feel absolute rage and a desire to protect.  It's not a matter of not trusting him, it's a matter of being completely disrespected and unsure how to deal with it.

I'm pretty sure the best way to deal with them, is to not! Anyone who disrepects you, especially repeatedly after you making if very clear that you do not like it, definitely gets at least half the fun out of making you mad! Don't talk to them, look at them, or acknowledge them! You don't care about them, so don't act like it. They will get bored soon =)

Most of the time I do ignore it, but this recent one put a huge dent in my marriage and she won't go away.  He has always been honest with me about who is chasing him but this time was different and this time he kept telling me they were just friends and I found out he was using her as a marriage counselor and for emotional support.  Her fiance suspected an affair between them and left her and she's been up my husbands ass ever since.  They were texting and emailing in secrecy and when I busted them he was forced to block her from the phone and computer and I threatened her with violence if she came around him or tried to contact him again.  I told him if it ever happens again I will divorce him and take him to the cleaners!  He knows he messed up big time and claims that it will never happen again but I have lost my trust for him now.  I've been playing detective and I know for sure he isn't trying to contact her and wants to avoid her but she won't leave him alone.  She disappeared for 2 weeks and now she's  figured out my schedule and is showing up at his gigs when she knows I can't be there to beat her ass.  He claims we have no right to dictate where she goes and they have many mutual friends.  I was going to get a restraining order but was informed because she has made no threat towards us that I can't.  She is aware that we are trying to rebuild the trust in our marriage and that she is not wanted at shows by either of us and has zero chance with him but she doesn't care.  I've contemplated destroying her reputation by going public with the messages and pictures she sent him but that would also make my husband and I look bad too.  I just want her to tuck her tail between her legs and leave us alone!

I know exactly how you feel! My boyfriend gets a ton of attention from skanky chicks and has groupies throwing themselves at him. I always laughed it off and thought it was funny until he started giving them attention back. I caught him in some inappropriate messages and pics as well and we actually broke up for awhile because of it. He swears he will never do it again and will stay completely faithful but it's hard to not read into every little thing now that the trust is broken. If he even likes a pic on facebook I freak out now. I don't know how to not be such a crazy jealous girlfriend when all these sluts are trying to get my man. I feel like I am losing my mind and acting like a psychopath. I don't know what to do