i suggest asking the oldest to watch the younger ones for some "me time". it doesn't need to be for a long time, and can be done w/o leaving the home. get a good book, take a nice bath or whatever you like. don't forget, when they go to sleep, that is officially your time.perhaps you can get everything ready so they are all promptly in bed at a given time every night. i tell my older ones to stay in there unless they need to use the bathroom. if they do, they need to make a bee-line from point a, and promptly go to point b and directly back to point a. i have 3 boys...8, 5 & 2 that are all home schooled. i take my "me time" daily, b/c sometimes i just need time to breathe and think w/o interruption. the oldest is more than willing to give me that time, b/c he says i'm much more calm and relaxed when i return. i'm telling you, w/ 3 children it makes a world of difference to be able to remove yourself for a bit! believe me when i say, they will really appreciate you for tending to yourself b/c your attitude will show it. you can't properly caen the sun and daydream about a tropical vacation. if you can onlyget away mentally, go for it b/c something is better than nothing. i spacifically say that i need me time, ask if they need anything before i take it, ask them to go play in the room and ask thak i nt be disturbed unless someone is bleeding. it may sound harsh, but @ times they will feel the need to run an update you over a petty argument. take the time you need for yourself and be selfish about it. why, b/c you deserve it! |
