Hi Everyone, I'm looking for some support. I have a teenage girl living with my and her natural father. She was not in a good situation living with her Mother so she asked if she can move in with us after only 3 days into a two week visit. A lot has unfolded in that time. We also recently moved. A move we planned for over 3 years.

Her mother refuses to speak with us for any reason including medical reasons. We do not know this girls past medical history except for what the child remembers. We cannot get any records withou going though courts to do it and her mother has moved 4 times since 2007 so there might not be any accurate medical records to get.

As for what I know about her medically, she was abused by a step father and molested by her halfbrother. She is also a cutter. For a few months she seemed stable and happy with us. Recently, she had outbursts almost tantrum like around Valentines Day and my birthday. I'm starting to wonder if there are connections between past events and holidays.

Her father(my husband) is especially frustrated. He feels she doesn't want to be with us anymore. We have no way of sending her back nor do I believe that she is wanted by her mother. They already dismantled her room and gave away anything she left behind. Any advice???