Ok well here goes. I'm 23 years old... I've been with my fiance for 7 years. When we first started dating I was well aware of what he wanted to with his life. We had the same dreams. He wanted to make a living doing what he loves... playing music. And my dreams didn't stray far from his. I wanted to be INVOLVED in music somehow without playing it. I wanted to be a "fly on the wall" so to speak when it came to the life of a touring band. We would talk about this dream together. I would take a job doing ANYTHING just to be involved in it. Whether it be selling merch for them.. doing their laundry... keeping them alive out there... whatever it may be... I wanted it just as bad as he did. I've always been fascinated by this lifestyle.. even before him. He was in his [first] band for 6 years. Although, there were MANY problems with that group, they were VERY family orriented. I went EVERYWHERE with them. They never went on a major tour. But EVERY show they played I was right there, front row. When they would go on 2-3 day trips... I went too. That part was awesome! And he loved it too. We had a blast together out there. I knew how to "behave" at his shows. I understood that to live this life, one must appear single..I was okay with that. I didn't hug and kiss on him .. I wasn't all over him at shows. I would do my thing, and he would do his. I just loved being there to watch him perform. Plus, I knew who he was coming home to ;)His band would make jokes and praise me, saying things like "why can't all band girlfriends be as cool and understanding as you". During that 6 years, I sacrificed so much for that band. I gave money, time, effort, my heart and soul, sanity, countless relationship fights. After highschool,  I gave up (stupidly) going to college just so if the chance came, and he needed to go...I could go too. I've been dirt poor for 6 years helping him try and make his[our] dream come true. So at this point in my life I really have NOTHING for myself. (NOT EVEN A DAMN CAR) UGHH.
 
Well, he ended up leaving that band a year ago. He was a MESS after that. I had to scrap him up off the floor and get him going again. I lost all of my friends because his departure from that band went very badly. About a month after he left that band, he recieved a phone call from the singer of a band that he had been playing shows with for quite sometime.. and had ALWAYS wanted to get into. I was a huge fan as well.  It was his DREAM to be in this band; Problem? They lived 5 states and 6-7 hours away from us. BUT, because I loved him... against my own better judgement I said FINE! Let's go. And in a matter of 3 weeks, we picked up our life.. and moved it all the way here taking me away from my family and the few friends i had left. The only reason he could make a move that big was BECAUSE OF ME and the money that I worked my ass off saving up for us. We moved into a house with the rest of the bandmates and a few of their girlfriends... We've been here for about 10 months. This band is doing far better than his old band and far more than I could have ever imagined. They go on 1-2 week tours regularly... They are in talks right now about 3 week on 1 week off tours... And where do I fit in to all of this? Absolutely NO WHERE. They don't "believe" in taking girlfriends on the road with them. They [with the exception of him and one other member) seem annoyed sometimes if I even travel an HOUR to see a show... which has always been a normal occurance to me. It kills me every day. This was supposed to be our dream. I'm lucky if when he is here, i even get to hang out with him. He is so distracted by trying to make great friendships with them.. and is so interested in what everyone else is doing... completely ignoring me all the time. We have been fighting non stop because of this and what was once a beautiful relationship.. is now completely failing. He wants me to go back home, take a break from us and get my shit together. (Meaning all the things I never did because I was too busy with his life) He says he is doing this for us..So that I can be happy again with him and not resent him for anything... but really I feel like he just wants to focus on the band and not have to "deal" with me. Which breaks my heart. I'm the one who has given up EVERYTHING for him... and i feel like now that he got what he wants.. he could give two shits about me. The constant touring is going to be hard enough, I know this.. It already has been. But when things aren't even good when I do get to see him.. how the hell am I supposed to trust him out there?! I love this man with all my heart, and I KNOW he loves me. I will NEVER EVER EVER be that girl that says "it's me or the band" I just simply wont do it. That's why I'm here. I just need someone to talk to about this. This isn't something I can truely talk about with just anyone. Sure there are other girlfriends here, but they haven't been doing this for as long as I have ... It goes deeper than just "oh .. i missss him!" In a way I'm jealous because he's getting to do it and I'm not. I also feel very taken for granted and underappreciated. I'm wondering if anyone here has a similar story....