My husband and I had only been married for a few months when we discovered that we were expecting and now are having to adjust to being newly weds and new parents at the same time. Even though we love each others we are exhausted and becoming disconnected from us and super focused on baby.  How do we still take care of our marriage and baby at the same time without seeming like we think that one is more important than the other.

Hi

Adjusting to a newborn is going to be very hetic and exhausting but rewarding.  Try to get out of the house so you don't go stir crazy.  Have a family member or friend come to the house once or twice a week, and you and your husband have some time for yourselves, (maybe dinner and a movie).   Hopefully, both of you realize that a marriage and raising can be equally successful

Deby

Thank you for the advice. The biggest problem that we are having isn't with having time for ourselves but keeping some intimatcy in our lives. My husband doesn't seem to get the fact that we can be intimate with each other in other ways than just having sex (wich at this point is not an option for us) so it's like we have just become room mates instead of husband and wife. And everytime I try to get him to show me some kind of affection he thinks that I'm being selfish and should focus more on sleeping and the baby. I guess what I'm trying to say is that even though I'm a momma now doesn't mean that I'm not still a woman and need some type of romance every once in a while. I  just don't want us to be that couple that just loses it and never gets it back, we haven't even been sleeping in the same room with each other.