I'm new, so I have another question for everyone!

Does anyone else's significant other have the ability to basically block things out? My bf is one of the sweetest most sensitive. loving. caring individuals on the planet, but when he's busy/working/etc it's like he can talk to friends, fans, etc. but pretty much completely blocks out me or feelings for me or any idea that we are more than just acquaintances.

Does this ring a bell with ANYONE else!? My mother seriously dated a rising musician and says her guy totally did the same thing...but I don't think I've really seen it discussed on here..?

I've even told him when he doesn't reply to my messages I take it personally or think I said something wrong and he just said "you don't say anything wrong". Well that's wonderful...but...I'm still being nice and you're not even saying anything...I start questioning if he really even appreciates my support. I only send him a short message once a week because I know the circumstances and everything.

Anyone else have similar issues??

My boyfriend does that too. He's always got a project or something, like recently he build his own electonic drum set. When he does that he zones in on the project without realizing it. Then 12 hours later he comes to me all loving and I'm mad having been ignored.

I don't think it's a conscious thing, I think it's just that they get on these project or work 'binges' and it becomes tunnel vision. But when it gets back and he stays upstairs for a long time, I yell up at him that if he doesn't come down and take a break I'm going to spill nail polish on his sound board. Sometimes you just have to be a little blunt about how you feel. Like he knows I wont spill nail polish on his board but it's a lighthearted way of saying, "get your ass down here and spend some time with me."

We conpromise a lot with their life style. It's ok to ask the same from them.

yeah! I don't think it's conscious either...I just wanted to make sure that was a pretty standard thing. That I'm not just making this up so as to avoid some other reality, haha, or something, you know?

I'm kind of blunt about it, but at the same time, he's at such a critical point in his career, PLUS he's stubborn as all hell, so he's really hard to push, and I don't want pushing to lead to our demise, because I know musicians enough to know it will happen. Also, I don't really mind having a relationship that kind of maintains itself, haha. But of course every so often I have my doubts, so it's nice to hear that it's a pretty "normal" thing.

Thank you!!

My boyfriend is a guitar player and does this, too. He gets so engulfed in the music that all other things are forgotten about during that time.

It used to frustrate the hell out of me!! I would be like, "hey, I'm going to cut the grass (or whatever household thing needed done)." 3 hours later, after working my butt off, he's still in the same place working on stuff. Then, when he would finish, sometimes he would have no clue that I told him that I was going to do something.

It's taken me a long time to realize that it's his passion and love that drives him to do what he does. And because it does bring him such joy, I can deal with all the "projects" he works on.

Just hang in there! While he is zoned out, do something for yourself. My own little joke is that my boyfriend can't multitask. He is only able to focus on one thing at a time, whereas being a woman, I can do multiple things at once. I hope that I don't sound like I'm better than him or anyone else, because I do not think that at all! It's just my weird humor that helps keep me from getting frustrated.

Hope this helps!!