I just had another argument with my musician partner... my toddler does not have insurance and we can not get on medicaid because he has no way of prooving how much he makes. They know that he is a musician and assume that he gets paid in cash alot (which he does) and wanted to see a record of his bank statement. What they don't understand is, that yes, one week we will be okay but the next week or weeks, we will be horribly broke.
I am not asking him to leave his "career", he does not want me to work because paying for child care is way to expensive... but he doesn't want to get a side job example: doorman or something that will give him some benefits.. He doesn't want me to work because then he will not be able to travel as much.
He claims that he is doing everything in his power.. he is not! because as long as he is playing he doesn't care what falls apart around him.
In desperate situations, I started coupoining and now I am one of those "extreme couponers" because I was freaked out about the lack of money for BASIC things like toilet paper...
When he is doing good, he is doing good but all the money he makes goes right into all of the late bills so it always evens out to NOTHING.
I tell him, while he was single, he had no insurance (still doesn't) and he did not care, but now he has a family.... a son that needs insurance!!
I don't want to do anything drastic, but I might have too if things do not change and by the looks of it, he's set to his ways.. he doesn't want to do anything else, because he's a musician and that is his career.. he doesn't want to do anything on the side and still play.. he just wants to play..
I told him that maybe he needs someone else by his side.. someone that doesn't have kids, has a job and won't need to depend on him as a family.
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