Just how much should my husband help out with our baby and around the house during the week? Is it fair that he does nothing or the bare minimum at home because he works from 7:30am to 4:00pm 5 days a week? I wish he would help more. Am I too demanding?

I don't think anyone could give you an honest and direct answer to your questions. You need to talk to your husband. Even if your a SAHM, both of you are still working hard all day and both of you deserve a break in the evenings. If it were me, I would tell my husband how I feel. I'd ask him how he feels (if he doesn't just blurt it out defensively). Then I'd ask if we can come to some sort of compromise where we both get 15 -30 min of alone time (whatever can be managed) while the other minds our child. It's also possible that you could both pitch in with whatever evening chores need to be done, so that once the baby is asleep you can get some "us" time with your husband to talk, snuggle, etc.

Sometimes it's hard to openly communicate with significant others because we love them and don't want to hurt their feelings, but once you get in the habit it does get easier. I hope I'm not coming across as "preachy", I'm just speaking from my personal experience. Our little one hasn't come yet, so I can't comment or commiserate with you on the stress your under with a new baby, but I think communication and compromise is still the answer. Letting bad feelings "brew" rather than just opening up about it can poison a relationship.

Great reply by Betsy J - I def agree about communicating with each other or it can poison the relationship.. Compromise bc its about working together and helping each other out so neither of you feel so exhausted. Easier said than done I know, but you got to try. Is he open to compromise? I am a SAHM now and my husband works the same hours as yours and we have over some time come to our own little system of how the evenings go. I feel it gets easier as the baby has a more predictable schedule. PM me if you like. One of my best friends is going through the same thing you are and we were just recently talking about this. She feels very alone and though her husband is a nice guy he apparently does not feel comfortable with their little one who is only 2 months old now (and special needs baby though no major issues now) and her hubbby has changed a total of 2 diapers so far and will occasionally give a bottle. He is also a workaholic and works partly from home too. But he does help with washing bottles and they are still working on making the evenings not so draining for either of them alone. Good luck - I know its not easy but I hope you can work something out and it should get easier with time. PM me if you want to talk. GL girl!

Great reply by Betsy J - I def agree about communicating with each other or it can poison the relationship.. Compromise bc its about working together and helping each other out so neither of you feel so exhausted. Easier said than done I know, but you got to try. Is he open to compromise? I am a SAHM now and my husband works the same hours as yours and we have over some time come to our own little system of how the evenings go. I feel it gets easier as the baby has a more predictable schedule. PM me if you like. One of my best friends is going through the same thing you are and we were just recently talking about this. She feels very alone and though her husband is a nice guy he apparently does not feel comfortable with their little one who is only 2 months old now (and special needs baby though no major issues now) and her hubbby has changed a total of 2 diapers so far and will occasionally give a bottle. He is also a workaholic and works partly from home too. But he does help with washing bottles and they are still working on making the evenings not so draining for either of them alone. Good luck - I know its not easy but I hope you can work something out and it should get easier with time. PM me if you want to talk. GL girl!