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| My 11 month old bit 2 other babies in our playgroup yesterday hard enough to leave purple welts and I was so embarassed I almost left. The other moms encouraged me to stay but I felt HORRIBLE and I was terribly embarassed. When she bites me I have been pulling her back and saying "NO BITING" but she laughs at me. I thought about putting her in her playpen when it happens because she hates her playpen, but I'm not sure what to do. Anybody else have this problem? It's really upsetting me because I feel like I shouldn't go to my playgroup anymore. :( |
| Posted by Briana on 08/14/2007 07:11 AM
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Hi
I dont have this problem BUT continue to go to play group it is so important in teaching your child not to bite while being around others . AND yes I would put her in the playpen since she hates it this will teach her a lesson.
Keep us posted
Laura |
| posted by laura on 08/14/2007 07:52 AM
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My oldest and youngest both bit. My oldest started when he was breast feeding...OUCH!! My mid-wife told me to flick them in the mouth and then tell him "NO BITING". It startles them but isn't enough to hurt them. I did this with both of them and it worked. Just make sure that you give her lots of love afterwards too. It took a few times but, it cured them of biting within a few days.
I would also suggest keep going to play group! It gives both of you some time to be with others your age. I think that a lot of mom's have "embarassing" situations every once in awhile. Everyone understands! |
| posted by Amy on 08/14/2007 08:04 AM
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| My 11 month old son does the exact same thing! It is so frustrating when he laughs after I yell at him. I don't know what to do either. My son hates his play pen too but I really need him to be in there sometimes without hating it so i personally wouldn't suggest using it as a form of punishment because every time you put her in there she might think she's in trouble when she really isn't. |
| posted by Sooni on 08/14/2007 08:27 AM
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| My 23 month old bites and it makes me soooo mad. And I see why she does it in defense of other kids taking things from her. BUT, I don't think it's right, so for her punishment I have a high chair that straps to a chair in a different color than the one she sits in for meal time and I have that chair in a room we don't go in often (living room) for her time out chair and she has to sit there for 2 mins. (1 min. per year old they are, sometime longer if she's still yelling and crying) and when the times up she has to say sorry to me and whoever she bit. And we are pretty good from there on out each time it happens. I have picked up though on catching it before she goes to bit, I see what makes her want to do it. My mom said my grandma would bite me back to teach me not to bite, but I am not at that point yet to doing that to my daughter.I can't wait to be done with this stage:) Good luck |
| posted by Brooke on 08/14/2007 09:35 AM
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| I used to work in the nursery of a daycare. Trust me when I say this is a very common problem. The first thing you need to do is find out why she is bitting. If it is because she is upset with another child (they took her toy or had a toy that she wanted) then you will have to watch her closely and model exceptable behavior for her (by means of role playing with that child). If she is just bitting because it is fun like my little girl then it's a little harder to break. No matter what just be firm with her. tell her no mam and move her away form the other babies. Don't over react as most babies find that funny and laugh and will do it again to see your reaction. Show no emotion just a simple no mam we don't bit and move her and she will get the idea. The play pen would work if she were a bit older but at that age she is unlikely to get the connection and will just be upset. Also while flicking the mouth does work it also teaches that it is ok to flick someone in the mouth when they do something you don't like. Remimber that you are a model for your child in everything you do. Children learn much more from your actions than from your words. |
| posted by Laura on 08/14/2007 09:45 AM
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| This is a common problem with children, I agree with not flicking the nose as that can create more of a problem. Is there a food that your child doesn't like? Maybe the next time she bites have her taste something she doesn't like, it may help. I don't think at such a young age she would understand a timeout. Emilie doesn't bite, but she will pinch and scratch (she has ripped my skin twice). I noticed that she does this when she is tired and needs a nap. |
| posted by on 08/14/2007 10:23 AM
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| Oh I almost forgot make sure she is not bitting because she is hungry or thirsty. This is typical for younger babies but still could be the root of your problem. |
| posted by Laura on 08/14/2007 12:15 PM
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| I understand the point of children learning from our actions but, none of my children have EVER flicked anyone in the mouth. We discussed over and over how to treat people. This is a whole nother discussion about discipline philosophy. I do agree also, with giving the child a food (or combination of food) that they do not like. For lying, my children get their "tongue spanked". They get a dash of pepper or tabasco sauce on their tongue. After about a minute, I then let them have some milk to drink to get rid of the "burn" and we discuss what they did wrong and how to do it differently next time. A good book that I have found to be helpful is called Creative Correction. It's by Lisa Welchel (Blair from Facts of Life). It's WONDERFUL!!! If you would like, you can send me your e-mail and I will e-mail you all her ideas, stories, etc. about her children biting and what she did to stop it. My address is: amyntyler2@yahoo.com |
| posted by Amy on 08/14/2007 01:52 PM
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At 11 months, biting could be because she is teething. Use a very firm voice and tell her no biting, but also give her someting she can chew on. She is getting to the age where it could be behavioral. My son is 10 1/2 months, and he has recently started screaming when I take away something he wants. This morning he picked up the cordless phone from the table and I took it from him and he screamed very loud and until I distracted him with something else.
To determine the cause, try to notice what happens just before she bites. If there was nothing happening, she just reached out and bit someone, it could be teething. If someone took a toy she had, it is because she is upset. Also try to notice if it happens more when she is hungry or tired. That could make her have less patience when something doesn't go her way. Try to schedule playdates around her naps and make sure you have a snack handy. |
| posted by Marcia on 08/14/2007 03:10 PM
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