Hey guys... First of all, my name's Cherisse. I'm new to this site, just signed up to join this group (found it through Google.) I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, but he's been in a Punk Rock band for almost 11 years. It's not a hugely successful band, but they do have a major local following since they've been around for such a long time. They've been on a couple mini-tours and played out of state festivals since I've been around, but just yesterday they left for a 6 week US tour (planned entirely by my boyfriend with the help of his cross country connections.)
Obviously he hasn't been long enough for me to really miss him yet, although thinking about how long he'll be gone does make me a little sad. We talk every day while he's away, and we keep each other updated on our lives via picture messaging. My issue isn't about missing him, because I truely believe that absense makes the heart grow fonder. However, absense also makes people sexually frustrated...
My boyfriend does have a history of being a cheater. His previous girlfriend got the worst of it, and when they broke up he decided he didn't like feeling that shitty about himself for hurting someone so badly. He hasn't cheated on me... (I do believe him. We have a very open relationship. It's never a problem to ask the other exactly what they're doing, where, and with whom. It's part of his process.) All of his friends are amazed that he has lasted this long.
Trust is the one thing we know we always have to tend to, and we both do. He is always reassuring me that no one can love and support him like I do, and he would never want to jeopardize that. And while most women would say "once a cheater, always a cheater" and turn and run away, I believe that everyone deserves a second chance, and some a third. He hasn't done me wrong, and I support him and his entire existence 100%, and I promised him I would never give up on him, and I intend to keep that promise... 6 weeks is a long time to be away though... longer than we've ever gone before...
He and I have always sent eachother little nudey/teasing pictures, since the beginning of our relationship. It keeps things fun when we're away from each other, even for just a few days. I want to send him some while he is on the road, sort of as a "remember what you have waiting for you at home" message, but also to keep things fun. My best friend (who has experience dating musicians, especially of the promiscuous variety) says this is a horrible idea because it will just rile him up, and he'll have to take his sexual frustrations out on the first girl who drops her panties, or even looks at him. My question to you guys is, do any of you send your man pictures while he is away? How risque are they? Do you agree with my friend, or do you think it will steer him away from other girls because he's reminded of me? Maybe there is a limit to how much skin to show/how often to send them?
Sorry for the long post. I felt my question needed it's background story first. |
