I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 4 years.  Neither one of us are ready for marriage, but we have had many conversations about how we know we want to spend the future with each other.  My father travels in his business non stop and I see what it does to my mother.  I expressed this to my boyfriend during the beginning stages of our relationship before I knew how much HE himself traveled.  I am ok with the traveling for now, but once we want to start a family...I can't imagine going through what my mother still goes through.  My boyfriend has expressed that once we start a family...the traveling will slow down because he thinks it is important for the family to be together...expecially with children involved.  But when I see him up on the stage playing his music...he just seems so happy.  It's like he has this glow.  I am scared that he will make this sacrifice down the road for our family and then resent me later.  I never asked him to stop traveling...I just explained to him very early on that I would NOT want a husband that spends most of his time traveling because of what I have seen with my mother and father. 

Does anyone have any thoughts?

I am going through right now.. 

The first thing my bf told me about traveling was, that it's the only way he can make GOOD money. Now that I have a baby with him, I have a love hate relationship with traveling. 

He did tell me to give him until the end of this year, we are planning on saving tons and then I will go to work and he will be able to refuse some traveling. Let's see what happens.........

I know the pain your mom is going through.. it's SO hard.. alot of times i feel like a single mom, even though I know I am not and he works so hard for his family. 

I would never ask him to stop traveling because I feel he will resent me, he decided that he would limit it when I start working on his own. He knows how hard it is for me..and it's also VERY hard no him to travel so much... it's tiring, draining.

It's something they love and live for.... and we have to choose whether we will stick by there side and support them or not.

I am trying hard to be supportive...but it's hard. I am learning not to be so dependent which is a good thing... because i was very dependent.