My son is 3 in November and he has been very fussy since he turned 2. After school and work I am very tired and it makes it hard on me when he behaves that way. I have been researching different types of discipline or reasons why he does this but nothing seems to help. Some days are good, he will seldom act this way and throw little fits. Other days its an all day battle. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Well they don't call it the terrible two's for nothin' do they?:) My first question is-Is he on time with talking? Is he able to make his needs and wants known? Because if not it could be major frustration on his part that he can't make you understand, which drives him to tantrum. As a mother who has a son with Speech Apraxia-where you can't speak clearly but understand perfectly; I am able to 'get' what you mean about fussiness. However, if your child does speak well for his age and is just showing out to test boundaries or get attention that would be quite the different matter. Number one thing I do with my son is let my no be no. What do I mean? If I say "no" then that's it. There are no substitutions, exchanges, or refunds!  I stick to it and stay strong through crocodile tears and stuck out bottom lips. Kicking, screaming out loud for the whole neighborhood to hear, and flailing on the floor. Now I'm not mean about it, I just calmly stick to no when it is warranted. I don't have to yell. In fact the more calmly stern my demeaner is in the face of his tantrum the better. It gets the "I am Mother, Ruler of all I survey including you." demeaner across. Time out for their age is supposed to be equal number of minutes to age. So 2 years, 2 minutes with thorough explanation of why, tell them they are a good boy but that action was naughty so now you have to sit. And make them do so. When they get up explain again and tell them you love them. This works well with my son.  A time or two when they are silly tantrums over something like not getting the right kind of cup they wanted or their favorite pajamas aren't clean or just whatever like that, I do the Mimmick.  I will mimmick his actions to show him how silly he's being until I can find a way to make him laugh.  Then I guide him to something else to keep him happy and distracted while he drinks from that cup I chose or he's too happy to notice his pajamas don't have Thomas the Train on them.   I hope I've given you something to work with but from the amount of research it sounds like you've done I probably haven't mentioned anything you haven't already tried or are doing. Best of Luck.

Well they don't call it the terrible two's for nothin' do they?:) My first question is-Is he on time with talking? Is he able to make his needs and wants known? Because if not it could be major frustration on his part that he can't make you understand, which drives him to tantrum. As a mother who has a son with Speech Apraxia-where you can't speak clearly but understand perfectly; I am able to 'get' what you mean about fussiness. However, if your child does speak well for his age and is just showing out to test boundaries or get attention that would be quite the different matter. Number one thing I do with my son is let my no be no. What do I mean? If I say "no" then that's it. There are no substitutions, exchanges, or refunds!  I stick to it and stay strong through crocodile tears and stuck out bottom lips. Kicking, screaming out loud for the whole neighborhood to hear, and flailing on the floor. Now I'm not mean about it, I just calmly stick to no when it is warranted. I don't have to yell. In fact the more calmly stern my demeaner is in the face of his tantrum the better. It gets the "I am Mother, Ruler of all I survey including you." demeaner across. Time out for their age is supposed to be equal number of minutes to age. So 2 years, 2 minutes with thorough explanation of why, tell them they are a good boy but that action was naughty so now you have to sit. And make them do so. When they get up explain again and tell them you love them. This works well with my son.  A time or two when they are silly tantrums over something like not getting the right kind of cup they wanted or their favorite pajamas aren't clean or just whatever like that, I do the Mimmick.  I will mimmick his actions to show him how silly he's being until I can find a way to make him laugh.  Then I guide him to something else to keep him happy and distracted while he drinks from that cup I chose or he's too happy to notice his pajamas don't have Thomas the Train on them.   I hope I've given you something to work with but from the amount of research it sounds like you've done I probably haven't mentioned anything you haven't already tried or are doing. Best of Luck.

Yes my son is ahead of his time when it comes to talking. He has a wide variety of words and can communicate well. But when he gets frustrated and fussy all that communication goes out the window. We have given him spankings, time outs and taking things away. Lately I have been letting him just cry out all his anger and frustration and it seems to work, sometimes. Thanks for the advice :)