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| I can totally relate to what you are saying. My husband works two jobs so he is very busy. It is hard to keep up with the amount of housework that I have with no help whatsoever. Sometimes I think it would be nice to move to a smaller house so I could keep up, but with the market the way it is there is no way we can do that right now. |
| posted by Bonnie on 03/31/2011 10:41 AM
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I'm also new to this group and new to the computer world as well!! I live in Michigan. Most of my family is gone or far away. I have one friend in the area. So it will be great to hear from all of you and start a friendship!! My only sister did'nt have kids. My days are long and uneventful!! I feel very alone in this house all day with no one to talk to except my now 4 yr. old. |
| posted by Lisa on 03/31/2011 05:26 PM
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hello ladies i am also new to this group along w/ the site. i live in upstate new york northeast of the syracuse area where my hubby is originally from and im originally from the chicago land area therefore i only know my hubbys family. i chat with a few friends that i am still in contact with back in chicago one who i talk daily with she has kids three kids, ten, four and three other has no kids and getting married in aug hard to meet moms w/ kids same age when you live in the county i have great times with my two sons a four yr old and one yr old who will be two in may but im so looking forward chatting and forming a friendship with you ladies |
| posted by Megan on 03/31/2011 11:12 PM
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Hi Marissa, I'm a SAHM with an 18 month old and as fortunate as I am to be able to raise my daughter, I too, go through bouts of frustration and loneliness. And I live in NY -- one would think it shouldn't but it does.
I hate to provide the cliche - "well.. it's normal and you're not the only one going through this" but it's true. Apparently, there are lots of moms who go through this.
Here are my suggestions: If you can financially, try to join something like a Gymboree or a a Little Gym. It not only helps you get out of the house - but it helps Moms/Dads socialize as well. If Utah provides libraries in your area- find out if they have events like Babies and Books, where they provide a gathering for caretakers and their kids. By me, they read books, sings songs and then play time for the kids. It helps me meet other parents as my child is socializing. I have heard that some gyms - provide child care as you work out. Try to meet other moms - find ones that hold the same morals and child rearing interests as you, then you can join in and/or host play dates. I have met one very nice person by me and we have become very great friends. We meet up when possible and go walking and when the weather is nice, take the kids to the park. We just yesterday went to the mall with our kids. There are other moms I'm starting to become friendly with and hope to increase our cirlce as time goes on.
I hope this helps. I wish you all the best. |
| posted by dcan24 on 04/01/2011 10:15 AM
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Dcan where in NY are you? im in upstate NY northeast of Syracuse |
| posted by Megan on 04/01/2011 10:41 AM
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Hi Megan, I'm in the boroughs.. Brooklyn. |
| posted by dcan24 on 04/01/2011 10:45 AM
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Dcan... very cool only five to six hours away lol |
| posted by Megan on 04/02/2011 07:30 PM
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| You're definitely not alone in this. I think every stay at home mom has felt that way some time or another. I'm much further away than some of the other ladie (Ohio to be exact), but very close in understanding. I've been a stay at home mom to three little girls now for eight years and don't drive because of epilepsy. It gets frustrating some times but it feels better to take care of them myself then another stranger. We just need the time to vent and here is a great place! |
| posted by on 04/03/2011 10:25 PM
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i can TOTALLY relate. my fiance works allll the time. but he works hard to support us ofcourse. and when he is home he barely helps. hell give our daughter a bath and put her to bed but that is the extent of it! i have been searching for play groups to get out of the house myself and have had no luck. are you in any at the moment? i wish you lived near me bc i lovvvve to walk everyday and wish i had someone to walk with. it can be overwhelming when their little but trust me when i say it gets a lot easier as they get older bc my oldest is eight and entertains himself allll day long with me barely having to do much for him. he is very independent. i am also new this is my first day on so i hope for lots of responses and more friends. you can never have enough friends especially stay at home moms that dont get the socialization that we all crave!!!! |
| posted by Danielle on 04/07/2011 12:40 PM
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Hello,
I totally can relate. my family is 4 hours away. I have my own business in my home and taking care of 3 kids ages 10, 7 and 2 1/2 and keeping up house and cleaning and cooking and errands and helping my clients can really be a lot of work...so i know how it is to.
GOD BLESS
Theresa Trompke
Moms Helping Moms Work From Home
308-646-0170 business
308-999-02069 cell
www.mommythome.awuMoms.com
Helping one family at a time.
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| posted by Theresa on 04/07/2011 01:43 PM
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Hello,
I totally can relate. my family is 4 hours away. I have my own business in my home and taking care of 3 kids ages 10, 7 and 2 1/2 and keeping up house and cleaning and cooking and errands and helping my clients can really be a lot of work...so i know how it is to.
GOD BLESS
Theresa Trompke
Moms Helping Moms Work From Home
308-646-0170 business
308-999-02069 cell
www.mommythome.awuMoms.com
Helping one family at a time.
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| posted by Theresa on 04/07/2011 01:51 PM
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Hello,
I totally can relate. my family is 4 hours away. I have my own business in my home and taking care of 3 kids ages 10, 7 and 2 1/2 and keeping up house and cleaning and cooking and errands and helping my clients can really be a lot of work...so i know how it is to.
GOD BLESS
Theresa Trompke
Moms Helping Moms Work From Home
308-646-0170 business
308-999-02069 cell
www.mommythome.awuMoms.com
Helping one family at a time.
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| posted by Theresa on 04/07/2011 01:51 PM
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Hello,
I totally can relate. my family is 4 hours away. I have my own business in my home and taking care of 3 kids ages 10, 7 and 2 1/2 and keeping up house and cleaning and cooking and errands and helping my clients can really be a lot of work...so i know how it is to.
GOD BLESS
Theresa Trompke
Moms Helping Moms Work From Home
308-646-0170 business
308-999-02069 cell
www.mommythome.awuMoms.com
Helping one family at a time.
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| posted by Theresa on 04/07/2011 01:52 PM
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Hello,
I totally can relate. my family is 4 hours away. I have my own business in my home and taking care of 3 kids ages 10, 7 and 2 1/2 and keeping up house and cleaning and cooking and errands and helping my clients can really be a lot of work...so i know how it is to.
GOD BLESS
Theresa Trompke
Moms Helping Moms Work From Home
308-646-0170 business
308-999-02069 cell
www.mommythome.awuMoms.com
Helping one family at a time.
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| posted by Theresa on 04/07/2011 01:52 PM
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hello all, Omg. that's me all the way. sahm with a working hubby and 2 small children. sometimes i get so overwelmed with having no time to myself. i feel like a single parent although i'm not. I just need friends who understand. I live in san diego ca. |
| posted by Ciara on 04/07/2011 08:36 PM
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welcome ciara |
| posted by Megan on 04/07/2011 09:18 PM
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check out www.meetup.com for playgroups or support groups near your zip... it made the tough times SO much better because all of the Moms w/ kids "got it" :) |
| posted by Sandi on 04/08/2011 03:50 PM
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I know it has to be hard being in the house with the kids all day and not get much help. I have found a business working from home and was wondering if you wanted more information, I think that it would help you not to be so overwhelmed and give you something to do and people to talk to. Message me for more information and to exchange contact information. I would enjoy helping you achieve more happiness and fulfillment in your life.
Have a wonderful day and hope to hear from you soon
April |
| posted by April on 06/04/2011 07:32 PM
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you sound like me Marissa but recently just before my third child was born I got to talk to my husband and had made compromises. Actually he just came out on his own and told how he had been slacking. My husband works and I'm a stay at home mom but that doesn't mean I don't get tired or overwhelmed. I breastfeed so I'm up all night on my own and without help on the staying up. I don't get to nap during the day to catch some sleep so it can get frustrating but you just have to "speak up" is what I learned. My husband said that is the key. If I wanted him to get things done. Tell him and don't do it when he doesn't take action right away and be happy that he tried to cook (for example) even if it turned out a disaster. Effort in his part should be a start.
It is good to have other Mom friends though to get perspective in things and just to clear our overwhelmed minds. It can be overwhelming to be a stay at home mom but seeing our kids grow is such a reward. |
| posted by on 06/10/2011 09:23 PM
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i know how you feel. i have a 3y/o and a 1 1/2 y/o. both boys. all i do each and every day is clean, cook, and change stinky diapers. i rarely get out of the house. but the best thing i find for when youre getting really stressed is to just let them go outside and play while mommy sits for awhile. |
| posted by skittlez on 06/11/2011 10:22 PM
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I am in the same boat. Even though my husband is very helpful with the kids, housework, cooking, etc., I still wish I had more friends and family near me. My family and a few friends live in my home town which is 3 plus hours from where we live. Most of my husband's family and friends live in Michigan (we live in Oregon) so we don't get to see them as often as we'd like. Thankfully my best friend lives close but she is the only friend I have in the area. It seems that it is harder to make friends now than it used to be. Maybe after the baby is born I will rejoin a meetup group... |
| posted by Jessica on 06/21/2011 07:56 PM
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