I say yes, because something similar has happened to me. I have cut back my hours to 15 hours a week so I am only away from my daughter for short periods of time. Although I have not relocated, most of my friends were single and not parents yet so I do not see or talk pretty much anymore because they just don't get it. Your life changes when you have a child and it is hard to adjust for some. My daughter is almost 7 months and I still find myself crying a lot and missing my old life even though my daughter brings so much joy to my life. I felt alone and like a bad mom because of these feelings but after talking to a few other moms I am finding out I'm not alone.
My suggestion is to get out of the house as much as you can. I go for walks or to the mall to walk around in winter months. I've also started to make "play dates" with other moms just so I can have some adult interaction. What I've been told by many moms is that as your child gets older and is able to get into more activities it will get easier to meet people and make friends who have the same lifestyle as you. Look into any LLL meetings if you are breastfeeding or mommy and me classes to meet people in the community. In fact there are no mommy and me classes in my city so I am planning on starting one this summer.
Good luck and hang in there. As time goes on I still have good and bad days but knowing it's normal helps.
P.S. You will run into those moms who just LOVE everything about being a mother. Don't let them get you down! Everyone is different and it doesn't make you a bad mom for feeling this way. |
