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I agree with you completely. If you go to her then that could start a habit that will be much harder to deal with. You know her, so if she is just whining and doesn't sound like there is anything wrong, I agree that you should let her soothe herself back to sleep. That's what I do. My son has slept through the night since he was 2 months also, and every now and then he wakes up crying, like he needs something. When that happens I go to him, and I see what he needs and then I lay him back down and he goes back to sleep. If he wakes up and is just fussing a little or babbling to himself, I listen for a little while to see what he does. Usually he goes back to sleep on his own and I don't even get out of bed.
My suggestion is to continue to follow your gut. If she sounds like she really needs you, go to her. If she is just fussing or whining a little, let her soothe herself. She is already capable of doing that, so you don't need to step in. |
| posted by Marcia on 08/08/2007 08:07 PM
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| i would take a peek and make sure all is ok, cause sometimes they are soaked, sometimes they spit up or rolled on something or are twisted, i would just check then let her self soothe. dont feed her or then you will always have to feed her. good luck, you sound like you are doing a great job. |
| posted by MARYANNE on 08/08/2007 08:17 PM
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| I agree with both girls. You are doing great. Follow your gut. |
| posted by Amanda on 08/08/2007 08:35 PM
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Totally agree!!! You got the right idea, as they get older you can tell the difference if there is something really wrong. I do not think you are heartless, you have your child's best interest at heart. You are doing what is right, and later you become a less sleepy mom. I have friends that still get up with there 2 year olds---I think they are nuts. I do go in after 5 minutes of crying and silently check on her--she has wet her self before and that is why she woke up. The dozen or so times she has done this in the last 7 months she was only dirty 2 times, and sick one time. I knew she was sick right away it was different!!!
You are doing an awesome job, I also found out that when they reach a milestone they wake at night for the first week or so, and they "practice it". My daughter has had a explosion in vocabulary of 100+ words in the past months, and she sometimes wakes up talks to her self for a bit and falls asleep!!!!! Very cute if you ask me!!! |
| posted by Vanessa on 08/08/2007 08:38 PM
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| Wendy, I agree with everyone else...you know her cries and if she doesn't sound really upset I would just let her whine. My daughter has done this before too and she goes back to sleep. Sometimes she wakes up screaming, like she has had a bad dream or something and then I will go in and soothe her, but I don't pick her up. I just rub her back and talk quietly to her. Then she usually goes right back to sleep. You just need to follow your gut and you should be fine! |
| posted by Jamie on 08/08/2007 08:57 PM
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Hello Wendy,
I was wondering the same thing with my ten-month-old. She has been sleeping through the night since she was four months old. Occasionally, she would wake up and cry(like once every two weeks) so on those nights I would go into her because I would feel like she was crying because she needed something since it wasn't a habit. Like two weeks ago though it started to be a nightly thing, she wanted me to pick her up and night and she would fall asleep in my arms but when I put her back down she would cry. I finally decided last week to let her cry. It was hard because when she wakes up she screams bloody murder but I know nothing is wrong. Last week, she woke up screaming at 2 am, so I decided I was going to kill as much time checking e mail as possible until she fell asleep or I could not handle it anymore. She only cried for like 10 minutes and she has only done it once since and cried for 5! It really worked! She used to take a nap at 4 every day for an hour or so and recently I cut that out to help her sleep at night...it has been working well...you are doing a great job! |
| posted by Jeanna on 08/09/2007 05:53 AM
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| Ditto what everyone else said. You all make me jealous! My little one didn't sleep through the night until 6 months, when I just HAD it one night and let her cry. You truly can tell the difference between "crabbing" and really crying because something is wrong. If I am ever in doubt, I will go to her, give her a little pat after checking on her, and leave again. She has come to learn, now that she's almost 1, that night time is for sleeping and mom will come when it's time to get up. Sleep, for me, was the HARDEST part of having a baby and the biggest adjustment. |
| posted by Briana on 08/09/2007 07:03 AM
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| I agree with everyone else. You can tell by the kind of cry. You are doing the right thing. With my daughter the whining is usually because she can't roll over or can't find her ducky (a toy she sleeps with). If I go in to help her out 50% of the time she wants to get up. If my husband goes in she goes right back to sleep. So he usually takes care of her in the middle of the night. All he does is readjust her or put her ducky in her arms or tuck her back in. He travels a lot, so when he is out of town I let her self soothe and it only takes a few minutes. |
| posted by Cinda on 08/09/2007 08:44 AM
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| Thank you all!!!! That makes me feel better. We have a video monitor, so I do look to make sure she has not put an arm or leg through her crib, but I forgot about the "messes"! Just because shes pretty much stopped that doesnt mean it cant happen again! Maybe I will have Daddy check on her instead of the milklady!! IF it gets out of hand. |
| posted by Wendy on 08/09/2007 01:52 PM
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| The milklady! I'm cracking up over here! :) |
| posted by Briana on 08/09/2007 03:04 PM
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| You have a video monitor?!?!?! Where did you get it? And about how much did it cost you, sorry to be completly off topic here but i've been looking for one of those for quite a while and haven't had any luck |
| posted by Amanda on 08/10/2007 11:36 AM
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| babies r us carries the video monitar ranging from $99 and up |
| posted by Amanda on 08/10/2007 12:11 PM
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| Amanda is right...that is the one we have and I love it!!! Ours is by Summer... I'm online with you now in the basement and I can look at her if she makes a peep! Or if i'm out in the yard weeding i dont have to track dirt in the house to check on her...it clips to your pants like a cordless phone!!! |
| posted by Wendy on 08/10/2007 07:29 PM
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| I agree with you as well. My son started sleeping through the night at three months and some nights he will wake up and whine for about a half an hour. If he is not screaming I leave him be and he will fall back to sleep on his own. If he whines for more than that I figure by then I am awake and I will get up and nurse him. So far he hasn't made a habit of it. |
| posted by Cyn on 08/14/2007 11:32 PM
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