Oh my Oh my!!!

My husband and I have 5 kids in total-- 3 are mine, 1 is his, 1 is ours

We've been living together and married for nearly 3 1/2 years, but his 7 year old daughter and I still cannot seem to love eachother, let alone like eachother.

She was the single child, the only grandchild, and the princess that everybody sought, and according to my husbands family... "then we came along". My kids are 8, 9, and 10. Our son is 2. His family and I don't get along as they have done nothing to accept my kids and I into their family, and it doesn't help that we live within a 10 mile radius of his mom, dad, step-brother, sister, and his ex-wifes family. I don't even have family that live in the same state as us.

What do I do?

Have you talked to you husband about this? What is his take on the situation? alot of the actions you can take will have to include his support. Though I think there are some things that you can do on your own, But I think the big thing is to make sure he is aware and is willing to work with you to change the situation. But just make sure you don't blame him for his families actions. No one likes getting blamed for what their family does. I know my family can drive me nuts, but I try to make sure I always stand up for my husband even if I don't always agree in private. I want him to know that I love him and support him.

Paula, I agree with Jesse, you need your husband's support. Be aware of what you can and cannot change. It happened to me when my Mother-in-law would buy Christmas presents for my children from a previous marriage, (at least she did that). She would leave the price tags on them, showing $2 or $5. The presents for her "real" grandson would show $20 and $50. I asked my husband to have her remove the price tags. I knew I couldn't change how she did things, and he told me she always left them on. However, he respected my request and insisted she remove all the tags. It was a very specific change, not just asking him to tell her to "quit it!" If he is unable to know how to support you in this difficult situation, try marriage counseling. Often times another person can hear the problem and help you to work through it.