i am a new young mom, my daughter is 3 months old. i love being a mother. but im having a hard time dealing with the bordem and lonleyness. my fiance goes to school during the day and works at night very late. i am home alone with my daughter all day, i dont have many friends. and we have decidede that i will be a stay at home mom and not go back to work. id rather be home with my daughter and be the one raising her instead of her being in daycare, but i feel very lonley and isolated. i take my daughter for walks but sometimes its too hot outside for her and i dont want her to get sunburned. (i live in FL) im just looking for some advide of what other new moms did or if anyone else has felt this way......

Hi Kate,

Most SAHM feel a bit isolated at times.  I've been there myself.  Have you checked websites like meetup.com or craigslist?  They often times have mom's playgroups available.  Some meetup groups do charge a small fee for joining, but most will allow you to try the first meetup event for free. I hope you are able to find a good group of parents to hang with and for your daughter to play with as well. 

Check out www.momsclub.org and see if there is a local chapter near you. I joined when my son was 5 months old, and it has been a god send. Now, we both get out several times a month with others, have playgroups at our house, and also have found lots of stuff going on in the community.

Best of luck to you,

Helene

Membership Vice President - MOMS Club of Enfield

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Kate, you are breaking my heart!  I know exactly how you feel and it is a very isolating experience.  I had a girlfriend who drug me out of the house!  Even if you just take a class at the local Y or gym for an hour a week - they usually have childcare available - it will make you feel good and please make sure that you do something for yourself each day even if it's just a few minutes.  I hope all goes well!  Keep in touch!

Mom's Club is great. I joined my local chapter when I quit my job when my son was 16 months. I felt the exact same way you do. The great thing about Mom's Club is you can be as active as you want with no pressure to be too involved (if you don't want to).

Maybe your local library has a lap-sit or story time for little ones. I know some muesums have a free day each month for kids. Your daughter is still too young to participate, but it is something that you could take her too. I know I enjoy one that is local to me because I get to look at some art and not have to worry about keeping the kiddos quiet. :)

Good luck! You are not alone.

Liz

Kate I also know what you are going through because I feel the same way at times.  I have a 3year old and a new 6month old and it is difficult because you cannot take the babies outside in the extreme heat or the extreme cold! LOL It will get easier as your baby grows and you do have a lot of changes hormonally in your body right now. The best thing you can do is soul search and find a hobby and take this time for you. :0)  Do not get dragged down and depressed waiting on others to make you happy because only you can do that. Get up before your child in the morning and shower, get ready for the day, and get dressed! hahaha it is too easy when staying at home to sit in the PJ's all day, but us women feel good when we look good right? hahaha Treat your new role of staying at home like your job except your job is chores and baby now...... I am sure you are doing a wonderful job as new mommy and house wife,but it does take time to adjust and that is okay. :0)  So excited for your new journey of being a mommy and taking care of your family from home.

Good luck and I am here for you Girlie!

Christina

Hi Kate!  As annoying as this sounds --- it's a common feeling many of us go through.  The main thing, is to keep busy.  I had a baby later on in life, so I was really used to working, going to the gym, hanging out with friends and taking care of myself.  The switch for me was also difficult.  Since your baby is  now 3 months, you'll be able to start doing more and more things with her and it will break up the day.  I live in NY -- but I assume Libraries are pretty much the same all over.  I started going to storytime at the local libraries.  I also looked into different book stores, which held story time as well.  As she gets older, you'll be able to take her to the park.  I visited my family in florida just recently, and discovered they have many 'indoor playgrounds" which are both child and mommy friendly (they serve coffee and healthy foods!!)  The one I visited was A Latte Fun.  I know there is one in Coral Springs and another somewhere a bit more north.  Search Indoor playgrounds by your zip code.  By getting out there - you will meet other moms and eventually, you will form friendships and playdates, etc.  Check out Gymboree as well.  I currently take my daughter to Music Together and it's great for both of us. 

Hang in there..... it's a difficult change for you - but your daughter will really benefit from having you raise her.  Plus they pick up on our anxieties as well... try to keep calm around her. 

At least, that's what I tell myself when I start feeling anxious.  My daughter is almost 14 months.  I'm starting to like this happy surreal world I'm in.  I'm surrounded by primary colors and happy faces / happy monsters and happy songs.  It's a great escape.  :)

I hope this helps.

Hi Kate!  As annoying as this sounds --- it's a common feeling many of us go through.  The main thing, is to keep busy.  I had a baby later on in life, so I was really used to working, going to the gym, hanging out with friends and taking care of myself.  The switch for me was also difficult.  Since your baby is  now 3 months, you'll be able to start doing more and more things with her and it will break up the day.  I live in NY -- but I assume Libraries are pretty much the same all over.  I started going to storytime at the local libraries.  I also looked into different book stores, which held story time as well.  As she gets older, you'll be able to take her to the park.  I visited my family in florida just recently, and discovered they have many 'indoor playgrounds" which are both child and mommy friendly (they serve coffee and healthy foods!!)  The one I visited was A Latte Fun.  I know there is one in Coral Springs and another somewhere a bit more north.  Search Indoor playgrounds by your zip code.  By getting out there - you will meet other moms and eventually, you will form friendships and playdates, etc.  Check out Gymboree as well.  I currently take my daughter to Music Together and it's great for both of us. 

Hang in there..... it's a difficult change for you - but your daughter will really benefit from having you raise her.  Plus they pick up on our anxieties as well... try to keep calm around her. 

At least, that's what I tell myself when I start feeling anxious.  My daughter is almost 14 months.  I'm starting to like this happy surreal world I'm in.  I'm surrounded by primary colors and happy faces / happy monsters and happy songs.  It's a great escape.  :)

I hope this helps.

I know exactly how you feel! I stay home with my daughter and Im so thankful that i'm able to but at the same time it can be very lonely. None of my friends are in the same position as me so I feel like I have no one I can relate to.. it's a crappy feeling. I love my fiance and daughter more than anything but I feel like I need a hobby besides being a stay at home mommy. It does get easier though, well it did for me.. my daughter is 10 months now so she's at a fun age and we play all the time, so that definitely makes it easier. Hang in there hun..you'll get through it. Try to get out of the house as much as you can even if it's to go to the store. If I sit in my house for too long I start feeling depressed. I like walking around the mall, its something fun to do and gets me out of the house :) Just remember what you're feeling is normal and it will get easier!

where do you live at in fl? i'm also a young mommy, my daughter is 2 1/2 months and i'm starting to feel the same way! :(

hi heather i live in st petersburg,fl....how about you?

hi heather i live in st petersburg,fl....how about you?

hi heather i live in st petersburg,fl....how about you?

hey Kate! I actually live in Tampa!! Well i live in Brandon, which is just next to Tampa! How long have you lived here?