I have a 3 1/2 year old son. Of course I love him with all my heart, but as a toddler, he is testing me a lot and gives me a difficult time about anything from what he wants to wear to coming when he's called. I suppose these are all normal things for this age, but dealing with it as a single parent is very stressful. I am a full-time teacher and take care of my house inside and out. His father spends time with him so I get breaks thank God. Because I am stressed, I've started to yell more often than I'd like. I really don't like it and obviously neither does he. It turns into a meltdown of some type and then the tears start flowing. I feel awful afterwards and I always apologize to him. When I try to talk to him about something, it just feels like I'm talking and talking and talking forever when I really need to do what I'm asking him to do. It's hard to be patient. Does anyone out there have any advice or can tell me I'm not such a bad parent b/c they go through or experience the same kind of stress? Please help.

I'm also a full-time teacher and single mom so I know somewhat how you feel. Although, my son is only 15 mos. so I'm not being tested as much as you. It takes self-discipline to keep my voice calm all the time. I've started treating myself to massages every other weekend when I don't have my son.  It definitely helps.  I get massages done by students so it costs half of normal rates. They're still good.  I've also just started doing yoga once a week.  So, my advice is to find things that you enjoy and relax you.  You need an outlet(s) for your stress.  The more you have the better.  I also read novels at night in bed before falling asleep & escape reality during that time.