i already have two beautiful children that i love dearly. my daughter will be 5 in December and my son turned 2 in September. i really want another but my heart is saying yes and my mind no. which one do you follow. it breaks my heart when i think of not being able to experience it for the last time since this would be the final child. my fiance seems reluctant on the subject and does not seem to want one. i understand all the cons bu regardless  i still want another. am i being selfish? am i being a bad person for wanting to follow my heart? 

Hi allison,

You are not a bad person at all!! My children are 3, 2 and 1 with a fourth on the way by Christmas time...and I'm feeling very conflicted myself about having the option to have another after #4 comes...The option has already been taken away from me and I feel terrible that I wasn't able to give my hubby the other daughter he's always wanted!! I feel the heartbreak that you're feeling about not experiencing another pregnancy!! I hope that you go with what you're feeling and not with what your mind says!! Good Luck to you!!