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I'm starting another thread off of a thought I had while reading Ariana's post on the "Kelly's Update" thread. She said she is getting back to being herself again.
From birth to about age 27, I was thin, thin, thin. Some of my friends thought I was anorexic, but I wasn't. I was just thin.
Due to a number of factors that affected my weight, I have been obese for 15 years, and gotten quite used to it.
When I lose this weight, which I will, for health reasons, I will be a middle-aed thin person instead of a cute, young thin chick. I was all about being young and cute back then. I'm not sure what it will be like being at a healthy weight and being middle aged. To be honest, in rural Oklahoma, there just aren't that many thin middle aged role models. We have an obesity problem around here!
And my fat has become a protection to me. I know men (most men anyway) won't come on to me; I know women won't perceive me as a threat to their relationships; I know that others see me as soft and nurturing. I still won't be a threat to other women's relationships, I'll still be soft and nurturing, and I doubt that any men around here are going to come on to me - but I still wonder how different it will be - being middle aged thin from being cute, young thin?
Probably, since I'm losing weight slowly, I won't have a point where I suddenly have to deal with being thin. Maybe it will just all change gradually and I'll slip into the new adjective ("thin" instead of "fat") without a lot of trauma.
Anyone else worrying about things they can't change in the future, or over-thinking parts of their weight loss? |
| Posted by Kelly on 08/06/2007 10:02 AM
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| i did very bad today about eating ,,,, i started a new job, so i was eating alot ,,, i hate it |
| posted by jodi on 08/06/2007 05:32 PM
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Hi everyone,
I think a lot of people want to go back to the way they were. I can totally relate because when I got married I weighed 100lbs. I remember on my wedding day the women telling how I would never be that thin again. After I got married, I was on depo-provera shot for contraception and gained a lot of weight. So for several years, I was about 120lbs. Then, I got pregnant and gained 50 lbs. I was so scared about gaining the weight and sometimes I'm still afraid that I won't be able to lose the pregnancy weight. I'm no longer a 19 year-old so my goal is not be the way I was before I was married. I was thin but I wasn't healthy. Now my goal is to have a healthy weight and body. I want to achieve it by eating healthier and exercising. |
| posted by Monique on 08/07/2007 12:37 AM
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| Jodi: To borrow a phrase from a well-known 12 step group - "One day at a Time." Don't worry about screwing up for one day, just get back with the program the next day. This even applies to meals or snacks - if I give into temptation and have a HUGE bowl of ice cream after lunch - I can still make healthy choices for the rest of the day - I'd rather only eat 700 extra calories than keep going and eat 2000 extra calories! |
| posted by Kelly on 08/07/2007 08:19 AM
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Monique:
That's my goal, too. But in a larger arena I have been struggling with my identity and purpose ever since I left my job of choice over three years ago to move closer to my parents and grandparents.
I'm the kind of person who is frustrated because things won't get settled and stay that way: if I clean house once, it should stay that way; if I eat a good breakfast, I shouldn't have to eat again today; if I found a job where I felt I was doing God's will, and I was making a significant difference in people's lives, then there should be that kind of job for me wherever I have to move to; I used to be a cute, young thing bringing smiles to people's faces just because I acted young and cute, then I should still be young and cute today ~~
All that belongs on a psychiatric help page! LOL
If things aren't difficult enough, some of us can always find some way of making them more difficult! LOL |
| posted by Kelly on 08/07/2007 08:27 AM
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| I too was not heavy until I got married and had children. That also coincided with my mom being diagnosed with a terminal illness and ultimately passing away (a year ago). I have been heavy long enough to not own any of my "thin" clothes. It blows my mind when I stop and think about the fact that my closet is filled with"plus" sized clothing. As the weight comes off, it has been a tough adjustment making myself try on clothing in smaller sizes and believing that it fits. Still won't buy any because why bother if I am planning on losing more. |
| posted by Ariel on 08/08/2007 06:30 AM
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I can really identify with not wanting to buy clothes because I'm planning on losing more. What I've done is make myself go buy one or two new outfits a month - at Wal-Mart - on sale. That way I do have something that fits if I have to go out in public; but most of the time at home I can wear my just about to fall off jeans, and my overly large plus size t-shirts. I'm also going to buy a belt to make my jeans last a little longer. And when I absolutely can't wear it anymore, I'm going to give it away on our local Freecycle group if they are still decent, or just throw them away!
I've made it out of the plus sizes, ladies! 16's are fitting well, and I bought a pair of size shorts to shrink into. I started at size 22, so this is a real improvement for me! |
| posted by Kelly on 08/08/2007 09:52 AM
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ok, i started my new job i work on the 3rd floor i walk up them i eat a good lunch, and i walk so i do feel better ,
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| posted by jodi on 08/09/2007 06:47 PM
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