my daughter is 8weeks old and my husband whants to take me out on a date for an hour or two. this is the first time I 'm leaveing her with someone other than him. My bestfriend is going to come to our house to watch her for us. my qwestion is should we leave while she is still awake and let her see us leave, that she is now with a friend so she dosen't wake up and find herself with someone else suddenly? or should we leave while she is sleeping or not looking and maybe she won't notice we left? what should we do?and how should i do this when I leave her at daycare in a few days?

For us, at all times it's best to say hellos and goodbyes to your baby. Keep it short and sweet. Ensure your baby that you'll be home soon, even though at 8 weeks baby may not understand fully yet what that means. I know it was more of an issue I had with the separation, rather than the baby at this early on stage. Definitely don't doddle and linger when you leave; babies sense your anxiety as well. As baby gets older, you'll want to continue your routine of how you say goodbyes as to alleviate the separation anexiety they're bound to feel.

I agree with Loan. Short and sweet good byes are the key! When you come back for her, read her cues. If she seems upset and needs a good cuddle by all means cuddle her before you leave daycare. I own my own daycare and the most successful parent/child good byes are definitely short and sweet. Some days your baby may need a bit of extra TLC and thats okay too, just make sure you involve your care provider in the drop-off cuddle time.

My son is 4 months old, I have left him with my mom (his grandma) and we left while he was sleeping last time...sure it upset him for a moment, but I think he understood I was going to come back for him later, because thats just how we have said goodbye (he knows I come back) When he is awake.

Remember to follow your maternal instincts and read your baby's cues. She will let you know what she needs when you reunite after a time away.

Believe me the hardest time is the first, but it does get a little easier to leave your precious baby with a sitter while you and your husband go out. Best of LUCK!

If your daughter is familiar with your best friend, I would suggest--like DeAnna and Sloan--to say a quick good-bye to her while she is awake (instead of sneaking out). If she is not familiar with your friend, then I would definitely hang around for a while with your baby and friend before leaving. I think that will help her to become a little more comfortable with someone she doesn't know. I hope it goes well!:-)

thank you every one! I feel better having a plan now : )I know leaveing her with a friend is going to be harder for me. at least I can try it for a few hours first before daycare on tue. Thanks!

thank you every one! I feel better having a plan now : )I know leaveing her with a friend is going to be harder for me. at least I can try it for a few hours first before daycare on tue. Thanks!