At that age, they really do expect and for the most part should be the center of their parents universe (to an extent at least). They depend on us for everything and often after their needs have been met, they still cry and want to be held so that they can be reassured that they are safe and secure. Of course, knowing this does not make it any easier on us as parents when we are wore out and at the end of our rope from a crying baby.
There are different things you can try to wean his dependency from you. A swing or bouncy seat will often help comfort them and give you a chance to get some stuff done. You could also try a sling which would allow you to carry the baby around and get stuff done while allowing him the comfort of being close to you.
Your other option, and this can be controversial with a lot of people, is to let him cry it out. Babies do need to learn to be independent and they need to learn to self-sooth. Sometimes, imo, the best thing to do is let them fuss a little and learn to sooth themselves. Of course, you should make sure that all their other needs are met before doing this, as you don't want them sitting there in a wet diaper or anything. It may also help to leave the room when you are letting your husband care for his needs. Your son may sense that you are still in the room, and because of that may fuss so that you will take over. Leaving the room may help if that is the case. I hope you are able to find something that works for you. |
