I have a 3 year old son that just dont listen to me. He listens more to his father then he does to me. I have to yell at him before I get a reaction and I hate it. He does things like hit his brother and if I tell him not to do that he get mad. Then I will make him sit in his room it takes him a few times before he actually sit there. I need help I don't know what to do with him anymore. Please if you have any advice please share thank you.

i hear you and share your pain,  Mine just turned 3 and has the same behaviour.  I am working to reduce tantruns and i noticed she behaves like that when she is bored . tired or wants attention.  So I try to keep her busy and happy like that.  My biggest problem now she screams when I want to explain something so she can't hear me.  My new tactic is completely ignore her when she misbehaves like that and tell her " I won't listen to you unless you are quiet" i turned away my face and let her to calm down.Then I make my point.

Another one is to look straight in the eyes and tell her what is wrong and that I dont like at all "what she did". Then if she does better I say I am so proud of you! and she likes that.

Time out doesn't work with us, she doesn't really associate it with being punish or counting 1 to 3 ultimatums.  So i found it works better to tell her she won't watch certain program on TV or play with some toy she likes.  Then she says "no, mama! I'll do it ok! are you happy?!.  I say I'd be happy if you stop.... and behave like a little lady!

Hope this help.  Remenber it is consistency in your punishment that will work, be realistic in the things you cna punish and do it.  Do not punish with food or physically, that is not punishment.

Someone once told me she takes away all the toys in the place where the misbehaviors was and put th etoys on time out.  The child could not have them until he behaved well.  In my case it doesn't work cause we have toys in every room around the house (like lots of stuff animals and books and toys).  But I thought it was a good advice.

Good luck to you and to all moms on the same boat.

Hi Veronica  Thank you for your advice I will try them. I also notice my son is more calm when he is around other kids and they are busy playing. I have tried looking him straight in the eye it works but its sometime hard to get him to sit in listen to what I have to say. I am trying to be patient but sometimes its so hard. I always tell him your a good boy, good job ,etc. I do put him in time out he sits in his room but my problem is when I am out how to deal with him the other day when I took him out he acted up when we came home he got punished for being bad I made him sit in his room and explained to him what he did was wrong. I just sometimes feel that no one understand that just because there kids are well behaved or they are not going though what I am going through that they look at me weird. That I dont know what I am doing and I really am trying.I wish you luck with your daughter and thank you again for the advice.

If you are at a restaurnat, supermarket, or a friend's house for a playdate, you have to correct your child right there.  Inmediately that he misbehaves give him the time out.  Even thought time out is something that really doesn't work very well with my daughter; I do remove her from the situation when we are out.  For example I take my daughter out the chair in the restaurant (she usually starts banging the fork on the table and sings too loud or yells, etc if she doesn't behave after 3 warnings) and take her to the lobby or outside and sit her on a bench.  She cries and throws herself on the floor (sometimes) all to avoid the time out.  But I do it anyway, sometimes if people are around they will stare but if they are parents or grandparents they understand and several times i have heard "oh i've been there, done that" "they eventually get it".  So it makes me feel that what I am doing it is not something wrong or strange. 

Embarrasment, to tell you the truth I don't feel it in those situations, people there would be strangers to me and they will not be at home later to correct my child and live with us. What i am trying to say is you are the only who knows your child and how to correct him.  The only time i'd feel embarrased is if she breaks something or hurt someone.  But so far that has not happen.

If we are at a friend's house chances are they have kids the same age and go through the same at one point in their lives.  i excuse myself of the room and take my child away at the hallway or in a quiet place and give her time out there or I just don't use the word time out and only say "you can't play for 3 minutes until you calm down and behave and share the toy or don't trow the toy".  If she doesn't stay quiet and keeps refusing the "calm down time" I tell her we will start over and 3 more minutes and every time she moves is less time for playing with her friend.  That one works really well and believe me she says "ok mama i'll listen i'll sit"

Time out can be done putting the child standing up in a corner of a bathroom (at crowded places) or sitting on the floor at your friends house in a quiet area.  Noone will judge you for that!

If nothing is working for you then ask your child Pediatrician for advice.  They usually carry hand outs of how to discipline your three year old, and chances are he/she has heard it all.

You can also google "how to discipline a 3 year old child"  you will find a lot infor about it.

Thank You so much for your advice I will try them all I really needed this Thank you again.